It's very traumatic. We lost two children, one after only a couple of months, and one full term who was born dead.
But God has his reasons, and if you are faithful, you will mourn that child, pray for him or her, and then have as many others as the Lord sends you.
We named the second child, and this helped a lot. He couldn't be baptized because he was dead at birth, but if the child has a name, it is much better for the parents. When we buried him in the burial rite for unbaptized infants, the priest prayed for him by name - and this was a wonderful thing. His name was Benedict Joseph, btw.
God bless you in your losses, especially with Benedict Joseph. I think one of the reasons that Jesus wept when Lazarus died was pure sympathy at the separation of death that Adam wrought. He knows what we're going through and longs for us to seek comfort in Him.
God bless you and I am so sorry for your loss. Your comment will help, so very much. THANK YOU!