Posted on 01/23/2006 7:05:27 AM PST by Millee
MARRIAGE is the death of hope," Woody Allen once said. But not for everyone. In New York, where eligible men are few and far between, single women who endure long stretches of unwilled celibacy may resort to cheating with someone else's husband because it seems like the only hope - consequences be damned.
In December, I slept with a married man - late 50s, attractive, smart and successful. He's been with his wife forever, a lifestyle to which he is completely wedded, one that I had no intention of jeopardizing. Any guilt I might have felt was further assuaged by the fact that the man already had a roguish reputation. Since it had been two months that I'd gone without any skin-to-skin contact and I was too impatient to go through another round of dating rigmarole - the dinners, the chitchat, the sizing each other up - I reached out to him.
It was mid-afternoon when we met for a late lunch at a forgettable sushi place near 42nd Street. Since we weren't on a traditional "date," there was no need to conceal our vulnerabilities in order to make a good first impression. I was relaxed, and enjoyed being open with and appreciated by a man without even having to try.
Afterward, he put his arm around me and steered me to West 45th Street to Hotel QT, a sense of furtiveness lending a sexy dangerousness to our imminent entwinement. Entering the room, we anxiously pulled off our clothes, tearing back the bedcovers.
Last spring, a Time-CNN poll determined that while 90 percent of Americans say adultery is wrong, some type of infidelity occurs within half of all marriages. The reasons why seem obvious enough: boredom, loneliness, anger and, in cases when bedroom activities have simply died out,
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sad, but true. we hold the power. (he,he,he)
You do hold the power, I will agree, but not very happily...
I don't buy this half of all marriages have infidelity. I mean i knwo its probably double digit, but 50%??
I'd bet it's around 40%, because you have to figure it those who might have only done it once and never again. Then you have to figure it what is considered "cheating." Some might think sex is it, some might think it's a kiss...
Geez laz, keep it in your pants :-p
Good night! Is that her carapace showing through her chest skin?
My pastor likes to say when you begin justifying something you've already failed.
I thought i read it somewhere being closer to 25-30%?
I suppose this means "some married women fantasize about their long-lost college lover" or "some married men find themselves persistently attracted to Victoria's Secret online." In other words, the adulterous author is at pains to show that everybody's doin' it, which they're not, so she has to elasticize her definition into "some" "type" of "adultery."
Like that pathetic bugger Kinsey had to show that "everybody's deviant," "it's normal to be abnormal."
When you're doing something you KNOW violates ordinary standards of decency, the cheapest way to assauge your uneasy conscience is to say that you're just doing what thousands of others do, Tens of thousands. Millions. Billions and billions.
Because that way, it can't be wrong. Or it can't be that wrong. Right?
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I can spot two lies right there.
We've either worked at the same firms, or the situation is rampant. Sadly, I think it's the latter.
And, many of the married partners were married to their former mistresses, now trolling for number 3 . . .
You actually think a lawyer can be moral?!?!?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!
cheating on a spouse changes your life, and everyone
elses, forever. it will change the way everyone who
knows the cheater sees them, and even how they see
themselves. cheating is, imo, the ultimate betrayal
and forever destroys relationships that were once
sacred. that's certainly nothing to brag about.
I know a lounge in the NW burbs of Chicago where she wouldn't have to pay for a cocktail for.. oh.... life.
And she definitely wouldn't have to be concerned over any lack of (in her words) "skin-to-skin" contact. Heck some of the guys I hung drank with are even single - well, according to them. ;-)
BLUSH! Sorry, but I'm saving myself for Victoria Delsoul.
Because he didn't call after saying he would?
I would respect her in the morning just like I did good old whatshername.
I have little doubt she has a German Shepherd too.
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