Is it OK to have sex on a first date?

The Guardian (UK) ^ | 1/17/06 | Staff

[Millee]

Three quarters of people think it is fine to sleep with someone on a first date, according to a new survey. Really? We conducted our own study ... Jodie Marsh Celebrity Big Brother contestant

I always used to think it was bad to have sex on the first date because lots of men are still in that old-fashioned frame of mind where they think that if you're too easy, you must be a slag, and therefore they will have no respect for you and won't want to see you again. But then sometimes you meet someone you're so attracted to, and it feels like love at first sight, and you know that even if you sleep with them that first night, it will make no difference because there's such strong chemistry and you're so obviously into each other. I generally think it's better in the long term to wait a while, though. On the flipside, if a man is obviously trying to get in my knickers as soon as possible, and doesn't care about what I'm like as a person, then I'm not going to want to have anything to do with him. Clearly, they're just after a shag.

Denis Rodman is trying to sleep with everyone in the Big Brother house. On that basis, I wouldn't sleep with him if he was the last man on earth. Whereas if he only liked me, and waited to get to know me, then perhaps I would give him the time of day.

James Brown former editor of Loaded magazine

I think sex on a first date is fine as long as you get a receipt.

[RockinRight]

First date?

Haven't had one of those in a while. Can't comment...

[Millee]

How about this statement:

I would never date someone until I had had sex with them. You might be wasting time hanging around with someone who's rubbish in bed.

How would that conversation go??

"Yes, I'd love to have coffee with you, but would you mind if we $#&^ first? I'd like to see if you're worth the caffeine buzz."

[RockinRight]

Since so many people *Hook Up* so to speak via the Internet I think after 8 months, whatever the length of Internet dating is many will have sex upon meeting, since they have been dating via cyberspace, at least from what I hear from people doing this.

Are you speaking from experience, Laney? ;-)

[peacebaby]

get a receipt means she's selling it?

[linda_22003]

I can think of some reasons to have sex on the first date. Her insipid, "it feels like love at first sight" is emphatically NOT one of them.

[Mike Bates]

Depends how Loaded you are, and how Loaded she is.

[conservativebabe]

Not a good idea. Especially if you hope to have a second date.

More than likely it would make whatever relationship that develops, mostly about sex. Though, I suppose there have been some instances where it lasts.

[RockinRight]

This is gonna be a fun thread...

[peacebaby]

February 29?

[peacebaby]

dinner, then go separate ways at the end of the night. Makes things much more interesting on the second or third - or fourth date.

[MadCharity]

NO...

1st date = 1st base

2nd date = 2nd base

3rd date = 3rd base

4 date = you know where this is going....

[laney]

LOL..No I never Internet dated...
Met my last hubby via the telephone and after 6 months he flew me to Texas...rest is history..

However I do have a g/f who only dates this way so she gives me the low down on how all this works...

[Millee]

I never knew what the bases were (still not real clear). I think I could have been easily duped by that system. ;o)

[eastforker]

Oink, oink oink went the piggie, yes, yes yes said the tramp. Since they both agreed to the quickie, it's evident they're in the same camp.

[eastforker]

Third line; Will you have my little piggie, only if SAM gives me the stamps.

[freedomlover]

Does it have to be a real date?

What if it is "just lunch"? ;)

[PaulaB]

Tax purposes?

[HuntsvilleTxVeteran]

When I was young, I bought my women shorty nightgowns.
Now that I am 67, I buy them nightgowns with skirts 4 yards long.
Pulling it up is the most fun.

[Maximus of Texas]

Ok, see you then.

[Maximus of Texas]

To the bathroom with a copy of Glamour?