You know, my experiences could have easily turned me into a bitter, nasty person.
I choose to think of it as a poor decision or just chalk it up to a lack of maturity. And I don't ~hate~ my ex. We just weren't right for each other and that's that.
These fellas take their bad experiences and morph it into "All women are evil".
How is a gal supposed to know if a guy really likes her or if he's one of these types that just wants to have "casual sex" and move on since we are ~evil~ American women? And then folks wonder why it's so hard for couples to trust each other.
It's stupid.
These guys should just go "brokeback" and be done with it if they are so female-phobic. :-D
Kidding, of course.
((((((Ruthy))))))
I guess I better find this thread...
Heh... no, I know what you mean...
Maybe a little heartbreak early in life and little bits of it spread out over time is safer than saving it all up and taking it all in one dose. :-)
OK, I'm done. No more posting to that thread.
For everyone like me, who hopes to be in a relationship with the right guy one day, those threads are hope-killers.
And being the eternal optimist that I am, I refuse to stand by and let someone stomp on my dreams and the dreams of others because they've had some bad times.
Life isn't fair, but that is no reason to make it harder to live.
It takes a lot of time, something many young couples are just not willing to invest. They think nothing of jumping in the sack on the first date, then wonder why he or she never calls. DUH! They've gotten what they wanted and they're moving on to the next mark. Taking to time to get to know the other person, to see that person in many different social and family situations gives really good clues as to what life with them would be like.
Unfortunately, many folks think love will conquer all, and it just ain't so. Loving feelings wax and wane over the course of a marriage, and both people need to trust that neither one is going anywhere, so they might as well work on it to make it better.