I have been writing some more tonight. But, I have been checking in, from time to time.
I think that they are just trying to say:
(1)- DO NOT feel so hopeless, and like God has forgotten about your needs for a girl. I know you feel alone. SO do I. And, with Christmas coming soon, it is never fun, being alone. However, you must NOT allow this, to so cloud your thinking, that you let it ruin your outlook on things. I know you have heard this before, but I will say it anyway-- YOU are still young-- (I mean, I am 38, a LOT older, nearing the "middies" stage, so to speak),you have a lot of time. And when I say 'you do NOT want to fall victim to a "predatory woman". I MEAN it!! Someone who only uses you, for a purpose, and then departs, will leave you hurting a LOT more than you do now-- AND, those kind of women LOOK for the kind of guys, who exhibit the "I am alone, and need somebody" attitude. I say this from the SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS. So, It is NOT a good idea, to allow women to know you are SO DESPERATE, that you HAVE to have a girlfriend-- for one, women in general see that as a weakness, OR a "line" from a guy who only wants to use them. and -- the "user" type women focus on guys like this, to "latch" on to, to pretend to be a friend to them for a SELFISH reason, and then once that woman has gotten their desire(such as stealing a man from his steady girlfriend, by using you as "bait"), they WILL leave you, often VERY cruelly. TRUST ME-- You do NOT want that to happen!!!!!
(2)-- you do have to put a LITTLE bit of effort into finding someone. The "lottery ticket" analogy, was referring to the fact, that you (and I, for that matter) expect God to just "send the right women to our door", without us doing anything to find her. While this may happen SOMETIMES, most often, he expects us to help out a little. Also, if someone DOES start paying you attention, as I have said to you before-- do NOT miss out on that. I did, (as I have told you about, publicly and privately, in more detail), and still wonder how things would had been different, had I not let that chance slip away. But, somehow, it must had been God's will. I have to accept that. Right now, I am too concerned with getting my script done, proofed, and entered, before the 25th(I plan on sending it in on about the 22nd) to worry about a girl. And, my financial situation is not looking too good, either. SO, I am just not too worried about dating right now. Of course, if something DID open up, I would be happy.