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I have been writing some more tonight. But, I have been checking in, from time to time.

I think that they are just trying to say:

(1)- DO NOT feel so hopeless, and like God has forgotten about your needs for a girl. I know you feel alone. SO do I. And, with Christmas coming soon, it is never fun, being alone. However, you must NOT allow this, to so cloud your thinking, that you let it ruin your outlook on things. I know you have heard this before, but I will say it anyway-- YOU are still young-- (I mean, I am 38, a LOT older, nearing the "middies" stage, so to speak),you have a lot of time. And when I say 'you do NOT want to fall victim to a "predatory woman". I MEAN it!! Someone who only uses you, for a purpose, and then departs, will leave you hurting a LOT more than you do now-- AND, those kind of women LOOK for the kind of guys, who exhibit the "I am alone, and need somebody" attitude. I say this from the SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS. So, It is NOT a good idea, to allow women to know you are SO DESPERATE, that you HAVE to have a girlfriend-- for one, women in general see that as a weakness, OR a "line" from a guy who only wants to use them. and -- the "user" type women focus on guys like this, to "latch" on to, to pretend to be a friend to them for a SELFISH reason, and then once that woman has gotten their desire(such as stealing a man from his steady girlfriend, by using you as "bait"), they WILL leave you, often VERY cruelly. TRUST ME-- You do NOT want that to happen!!!!!

(2)-- you do have to put a LITTLE bit of effort into finding someone. The "lottery ticket" analogy, was referring to the fact, that you (and I, for that matter) expect God to just "send the right women to our door", without us doing anything to find her. While this may happen SOMETIMES, most often, he expects us to help out a little. Also, if someone DOES start paying you attention, as I have said to you before-- do NOT miss out on that. I did, (as I have told you about, publicly and privately, in more detail), and still wonder how things would had been different, had I not let that chance slip away. But, somehow, it must had been God's will. I have to accept that. Right now, I am too concerned with getting my script done, proofed, and entered, before the 25th(I plan on sending it in on about the 22nd) to worry about a girl. And, my financial situation is not looking too good, either. SO, I am just not too worried about dating right now. Of course, if something DID open up, I would be happy.

I wrote some more today too.

Sure is hard not to. I know how you feel about Christmas. It is not fun when your by yourself. I will do my best not to let it cloud my thinking.

I am well aware of the risks. I would never say I am lonely out in public (she would not even be aware of it until I know I could trust her). I never knew women saw it as a weakness. I belive you.

I never comoletely understood the lottery ticket anaology until now lol. I have been trying to get out more. Been talking but no real progress so far. I will look to see if somone is interested in me but I do not remember the signals to look for. I wish you luck on your script. SOunds awesome :)

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD

Notice "finds" here is ACTIVE.
Even if you meet someone through friends, you had to be active to even have/find friends

If you pursue the gifts and talents that the good Lord gave you then you have a greater chance of finding someone through those activities

But the main point is still ACTION on your part

In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
Eleanor Roosevelt

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.
Babe Ruth

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

2 Timothy 1:7

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.