Posted on 07/18/2005 2:36:48 AM PDT by Selkie
HIGH earners of both genders boast an increased libido over their poorer colleagues, but only the wealthy men end up having more sex.
As their incomes rise, men and women are more likely to have a higher sex drive, according to a study of almost 30,000 people from 170 countries - the largest survey of its kind.
The findings, from an online survey conducted by the BBC, offer fresh evidence for the theory that women tend to be more attracted to men with money and resources, but that a woman's wealth does not much affect her sex appeal to men.
"Men accumulate resources, which they use to attract women," said John Manning, professor of psychology at the University of Central Lancashire, who analysed the results.
"When it comes to men with little by way of resources, women are just not interested in them at all. As a man's earning power goes up, you would expect him to be having more sex and be with more sexual partners." Feminine charms were little enhanced by income because men paid more attention to other qualities, such as looks, Professor Manning said.
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Absolutely, I didn't mean to imply otherwise.
I remember being a teenager and my 20's. Girls wanted it bad and acted like it. I am sure those same girls rarely give it up to their husbands.
This is exactly what I am talking about. Young women 1) have just found out the power their bodies have and tend to overuse it and 2) are not secure in their self-image or relationships.
As they gain experience, they learn that they can raise the price for sex by rationing it. That isn't the way they think about it, but it is an accurate description of the way the process works.
Any man will tell you the way to maximize sexual activity is serial polygamy. When women are trying to secure the relationship, they use sex. After they feel comfortable in the relationship, they begin to ration sex. When they arrive at the point where they have been married ten years or so, they are often absolute tyrants with regard to sex if their husbands let them be that way.
But there is always a weakness to such behavior, and a wife who decides to torment her husban this way often finds a couple of outcomes she didn't count on because she doesn't understand how he views sex.
First, he can simply start having sex with other women. This is obviously stupid and destructive.
A less destructive option is simply to start rationing what he has to give. Stop giving her the satisfaction of his desire, stop pursuing her. She doesn't want to be caught all the time, but she certainly wants to be pursued. Denying her that strikes to the very heart of her security with the relationship that enables her frigidity.
Men tend to be honest with each other, even if it means pissing them off. Wives get very defensive when their husbands are honest or complain and throw tantrums like a little girl. If they treated them like men the woman could either accept she is being treated as an equal and deal with it or get bitter and hurt and cry about it.Woman act as if once married the mans needs mean nothing and thats the facts. Now maybe 20 years ago that wasn't true, but it is today.
I expect to be treated like a lady.
Or princess, or a diva or a goddess or like their daughter or like a man. It all depends on your mood for that day or that hour.
I think we agree. This method you describe here can often lead the woman to have an affair, both to satisfy her desire to be desired and is a great excuse when they get caught. The problem for a man in withholding the desire for sex from his wife is that eventually he just doesn't care. At first you act like you don't care, but eventually you really don't care, and thats when the woman starts to want it. That also is usually when the man becomes disgusted.
Usually, when a man gets to this point, he really doesn't care anymore anyway, as you point out. At that point, even if she recognizes the problem he doesn't want to fix it anymore.
I just saw this happen with a couple. She beat the hell out of him emotionally, made outrageous claims about him, threw him out of the house regularly. Then one day he met someone else. She was suddenly desperate to save her "aweful" marriage, and he couldn't care less anymore.
While a lot of posters want to place all the blame on the man, the truth is that women engage in just as much behavior that is destructive to the marriage as well.
There is never an excuse for adultery, but I have seen a lot of cases where it was real understandable.
We have similar friends.
No I expect to be treated like a lady ALWAYS. I'm sorry you've never encountered such a woman. I don't know where you're meeting women who believe that once married a man means nothing but I'm sure not one of them. I look forward to taking care of my man and tending to his needs FIRST. If that sounds strange, it's more sad and pitiful than anything else.
It sounds wonderful and good for you and your husband.
That's all I can do. He is getting the very best that I have to give.
Now, what do you see in there, that I wrote, that causes me to "make all men(in general) look bad",(a DIRECT quote, BTW, from another freeper, toward me, from a few months ago).
"Now, what do you see in there, that I wrote, that causes me to "make all men(in general) look bad",(a DIRECT quote, BTW, from another freeper, toward me, from a few months ago)."
I didnt see or read anything there that would cause me to think "all men look bad". I believe its your honest opinion. But, I also think that, yes, some women could/would take issue with what you think...who cares?
Thanks for your thoughts.!!
MM
Oh, and by the way... IMO, yes, there are "normal" women left..
Maybe hard to find, but theyre around.
Spoken like a man who doesn't get it.
You know when I listen to my friends when they (rarely) talk about sex in their marriage some say the same thing about their wives. They do it in a quiet manner. Men really don't talk much about bad sex in their marriage among their friends. (They will freely talk about sex just not hitting their wives.) Women on the other hand tend to shoot their mouth off about it when it doesn't meet their standards. They will often do it in front of the husbands friends. After emasculating their man they wonder why it gets worse.
I have watched it happen to several friends over the years and thought that I would stop that shit right then and there with some humiliating lines.
The difference is women will shoot their mouth off about sex and how it doesn't meet their standards. They emasculate their husbands and wonder why he doesn't want anything to do with them.
My wife will sometimes make certain remarks that I laugh. They are fairly mild but I know she would freak out if I insulted her in the mild fashion she sometimes (although rarely) does me.
In my business I deal with customers at their homes, usually the wife is the one at home while the husband is at work. I hear insult after insult from many of these women about how their husbands can't do anything right, can't fix anything around the house and the like. It makes me sick because they usually live in a pretty nice place, so their husband is obviously taking care of them.
My friends wives and girlfriends rarely like me because I don't let them get away with speaking to me like they do their husbands or boyfriends. I treat them like I would a man who mouths off. A man however can take it and fire back, woman cry to their husband to defend them.
You are absolutely right about men sharing their married sex lives with their friends or anyone. If there is a problem, they might confide in a good friend who is married, but never just blab about it.
It took me years to come to a place that I will now treat a woman who runs her mouth like a man who runs his mouth.
Amen
I've seen this happen before. And when I do, I let the woman know that behavior is not appropriate. I've been told it's none of my business. My response is that the fact that your husband does (or is) _____ shouldn't be any of my business either, but you chose to make it public knowledge.
By the way, I'm female and would never insult my husband in public OR in private. As Jesus said, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
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