[pissant]

I think having a harem would solve any problems!

[patton]

So buy your wife one.

[R. Scott]

Having lust and love combined in the same feelings for the same person is ideal.

[gov_bean_ counter]

both love and lust originate in our brains, but that the two feelings occupy different regions

And this is news?

[motormouth]

nice! LOL

[TADSLOS]

I knew I'd find you here.

[TADSLOS]

Feelings related to lust and sexual arousal occupy different areas, mostly located on the left-hand side of the brain. The area of overlap seems to mostly involve visual information, but for romantic love to set in, it takes more than just a lustful pang and a pretty face.

A Left handed brain and a right handed woman is all I need.

[brwnsuga]

I knew I was in lust the minute I saw my husband. He was so cute and skinny with dreamy hazel eyes.... I had to have him. It evolved into love and we got married 7 months later, we have been married for 17 years. Lust is very useful, it can lead to other things.

[CO Gal]

Geesh, I need to get out more. I thought this would be a thread about food, not sex. How disappointing... :0)

[SilentServiceCPOWife]

Don't you already have one? ;-)

[martin_fierro]

Love appears to be a more evolved behavior than lust, according to new research that found both love and lust originate in our brains, but that the two feelings occupy different regions and pathways that only slightly overlap.

I guess this is supposed to explain the Clintoons' marriage.

[followerofchrist]

"Love appears to be a more evolved behavior than lust, according to new research.."

Duh. Really? Ya mean....lusting for sex is more primal and falling in love requires sophistocation?

I don't know what I would do without these studies to tell me these things. I'll have to enlighten all my friends about this. They surely don't know about these new facts!

[cowboyway]

The authors of the study believe that lust is quite different from love. They also say humans have evolved three distinct brain systems for mating and reproduction: the sex drive, romantic love and attachment to a long-term partner.

This took a 'study'? Hell, Garth Brooks had a song about this years ago:

I can tell by the way you been turnin men down
Not your ordinary guy is gonna do
Youve been waitin for that someone
Who can turn your head around
Well now honey, I'm that special one for you (chorus)

There must be a million fish out in that ocean
So you must find the one thats right for you somehow
Well its up to you Im here for years
Or till the night time disappears
Im Mr. Right or Mr. Right now

And if you choose to be my wife
I would love you all my life
I'd do everything your precious heart allowed
Or we could make love love all night long
And in the morning I'd be gone
I'm Mr. Right or Mr. Right now (chorus)

I'm Mr. Right forever or just until whenever
Mr. Right or Mr. Right now

[SweetCaroline]

but for romantic love to set in, it takes more than just a lustful pang and a pretty face. ....yep=9 1/2 weeks!!!

[RockinRight]

Wow...I'm a bit late to this thread!!

[mistress_of_tantra]

"The researchers discovered that early stage romantic love feelings are located mainly on the right side at the base of the brain — the ventral midbrain — and in the middle of the brain, called the caudate nucleus. Long-term attachment, on the other hand, appears to be centered in the front and base of the brain, or the ventral putamen and the pallidum."

So our tax dollars are going to a good use after all! bwahahahahaha!

[Mr. Jeeves]

They also say humans have evolved three distinct brain systems for mating and reproduction: the sex drive, romantic love and attachment to a long-term partner.

So that's why men often need three different women to cover each of these areas. ;)

[Oberon]

"(Love) requires more sophisticated behaviors, reward and memory systems than other mammals..."

I wasn't aware that love was a mammal. Learn something new every day, I guess...

[najida]

Sorry sweetie,
but most (not all) but most of the 'harem' myth is just that, a myth ;) that was the soft porn of the Victorian era.

I mean, if ya don't mine your mama, granny, sisters, cousin Susie, all the hired help and kids under 10 watching. Been there, ain't as 'romantic' as ya would think (and most of the time, the women REALLY resent any guys showing up). ;)

[najida]

As for love versus lust....
I've only been 'in love' twice in my life...

It's hard sometimes to seperate the two, but love is best described as when you simply want that other person to be happy, even if it isn't with you.

[cyborg]

I love and lust all at once.