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Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down: Pain for Pleasure
ABC ^ | 5/9/05 | Charlotte Sector

Posted on 05/19/2005 6:41:02 PM PDT by pissant

"Nurse Nasty," "Wicked Doctor," "The Prison Matron" … not the usual way to introduce yourself, but in the leather-clad world of sadomasochism, naughty is nice.

And pain is pleasure.

"I need stimulation and get a terrific high from playing rough," said Allena Gabosch, 52, a Seattle-based "bottom," meaning she's the one on the receiving end of spanking. The buxom, tattooed, alternative sex activist finds pain play very seductive but, "I still ask for Novocain at the dentist's office."

While most couples don't need whips, paddles or ropes to get in the mood, a minority find sadomasochism, or S&M, erotic. They like to explore the fine line between pain and pleasure to escape from reality, test their endurance, experience a spiritual high or simply to act out fantasies and fears.

The pain can be real, but the goal isn't injury or broken bones. And despite the early belief that smacks in the sack led to mental illness, psychologists say that S&M practitioners are just as well-adjusted as the average person.

Slap Me for Pleasure

Sex or lovemaking is about feeling good, so what feels good about pain?

"People clearly want fictionalized pain for attention and symbolic effect," said Roy Baumeister, professor of psychology at Florida State University and author of "Masochism and the Self." S&M helps people temporarily lose their normal identity and focus on the flashes of pain, he said.

Baumeister described S&M pain as separated from its biological function. "It's no longer about warning you of injury, it's about escaping yourself."

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1 posted on 05/19/2005 6:41:03 PM PDT by pissant
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To: pissant

Sorry,I just can`t begin to understand this kind of thing.


2 posted on 05/19/2005 6:43:38 PM PDT by carlr
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I wonder what their [S&M practitioners] mortality rate is compared to the rest of the population.

5.56mm

3 posted on 05/19/2005 6:43:51 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: Xenalyte

Bring your friends PING


4 posted on 05/19/2005 6:43:53 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: pissant
"I still ask for Novocain at the dentist's office."

And I don't provide it to her. She can ask, beg, and plead, but I decide.

5 posted on 05/19/2005 6:44:10 PM PDT by theDentist (The Dems are putting all their eggs in one basket-case: Howard "Belltower" Dean.)
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To: pissant

I'm a big believer in pleasure for pleasure.


6 posted on 05/19/2005 6:44:38 PM PDT by Petronski (A champion of dance, my moves will put you in a trance, and I never leave the disco alone.)
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To: carlr

As long as I get to deliver and not receive...


7 posted on 05/19/2005 6:44:57 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: pissant

This woman is 52, for crying out loud.


8 posted on 05/19/2005 6:45:05 PM PDT by Extremely Extreme Extremist (Harmful Or Fatal If Swallowed)
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To: pissant
...psychologists say that S&M practitioners are just as well-adjusted as the average person.

Puh-leaze.

9 posted on 05/19/2005 6:45:17 PM PDT by Petronski (A champion of dance, my moves will put you in a trance, and I never leave the disco alone.)
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To: theDentist

You cruel dentist. rip them molars right out sans novacain!


10 posted on 05/19/2005 6:45:54 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: Petronski

Can I fluff yer pillow for ya?


11 posted on 05/19/2005 6:46:27 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: pissant
Can I fluff yer pillow for ya?

Thanks, but I have someone for that now, and she's cute as a button!

12 posted on 05/19/2005 6:47:53 PM PDT by Petronski (A champion of dance, my moves will put you in a trance, and I never leave the disco alone.)
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To: M Kehoe

I think most of the S&M folks are pretty non violent. Red butt cheeks is about it.


13 posted on 05/19/2005 6:48:01 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: pissant

14 posted on 05/19/2005 6:48:16 PM PDT by maggief
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To: Trinity_Tx

ouch PING


15 posted on 05/19/2005 6:48:24 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: Extremely Extreme Extremist

is 52 OLD?


16 posted on 05/19/2005 6:48:48 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: theDentist
"I still ask for Novocain at the dentist's office."

And I don't provide it to her. She can ask, beg, and plead, but I decide.

You are a bad, bad boy........

17 posted on 05/19/2005 6:48:53 PM PDT by tioga
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To: maggiefluffs

Is that your pic Maggie? Got some J-Lo goin on.


18 posted on 05/19/2005 6:49:30 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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To: pissant
The buxom, tattooed, alternative sex activist

 


19 posted on 05/19/2005 6:49:56 PM PDT by Born Conservative ("Television is a medium because anything well done is rare" - Ernie Kovacs)
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To: Born Conservative

Egads! this thread is gonna lose steam now. :(


20 posted on 05/19/2005 6:51:27 PM PDT by pissant (Pissant - Life coach extraordinaire)
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