Posted on 03/30/2005 1:34:53 PM PST by pissant
The first reaction upon hearing about the topic of battered men is that of disbelief - or an uncomfortable chuckle. Battered husbands are a topic for jokes (such as the cartoon image of a woman chasing her husband with a rolling-pin). Wives are often the perpetrators in depictions of domestic violence in newspaper comics. Battered husbands have historically been either ignored or subjected to ridicule and abuse.
Most people have a difficult time even imagining that husband battering could take place. The abuse of husbands is a rarely discussed phenomenon.
Nonfatal violence committed by women against men is less likely to be reported to the police than is violence by men against women; thus, women assaulters who come to the attention of the police are likely to be those who have produced a fatal result.
A defining characteristic of most abused men is that they are extremely embarrassed by their predicament. Most men who have reached out for help have been laughed at or scorned. They are often portrayed as weak and cowardly. This is simply not true.
Men are subject to the same types of abuse as women, including physical abuse. These abuses range from a slap in the face to a kitchen knife being plunged into a husband's stomach while sleeping to being run down by his wife who was driving the family vehicle.
Men also report emotional and sexual abuse, including threats and insults, withholding money, controlling personal activities, attempts to change him, unwanted sexual touching, forced sexual activity and sexual degradation.
Men are also less likely to call the police, even when there is injury, because, like women, they feel shame about disclosing family violence. But for many men, the shame is compounded by the shame of not being able to keep their wives under control, ie: a "real man" would be able to keep her under control. The police tends to share these traditional gender role expectations. As a result, the police are reluctant to arrest women for domestic assault. Women know this. That is, they know they are likely to get away with it. As in the case of other crimes, the probability of a woman assaulting her partner is strongly influenced by what she thinks she can get away with
the more out of shape, the better they fry up. higher fat content.
ROTFLMAO!
insults, withholding money...attempts to change him, unwanted sexual touching...
Guilty as charged, your Honor.
I think the ol hot oil treatment was a staple of the Roman Empire...
Is there a man alive who HAS EVER COMPLAINED ABOUT UNWANTED SEXUAL TOUCHING!
I didn't think so.
Thats how VO5 came up with it. Their R&D group remembered it from High School history class.
As a man, I can say that there are a few women I would not want to touch me sexually.
As a man, I can say a man better not try to touch me or he'll be eating his molars for supper
I need a hug
lol. that too.
All right. But remember its only a roll of 50 cent pieces in my pocket...
(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,
Cmon now. This has lotsa potential.....
Zoinks!
(If what I just wrote makes you sad or angry,
LOL.
whoever the hell is married to either Helen Thomas or Madeline Albright may have a case to make.
Or Molly Ivins. For that matter, Bill Clinton has a legit gripe!
You've apparently never met my hubby....he says "GET AWAY FROM ME WOMAN!!!" all the time. Although...he smiles when he says it. He's just not that much into sex. But he doesn't beat on me or cheat on me, he brings his paycheck home, buys me a new truck every 4 years and just bought me a new house, so I think I'll keep him...I just tell everyone he is the gardener : )
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