I agree with the suggestions about AD/HD. My wife had behaviors similar to yours that were driving me nuts and making our marriage miserable. I was griping to a psychologist friend about her over lunch one day. He suggested the diagnosis, and we got her referred to specialists who were able to make the diagnosis and begin treatment. While treatment requires medication, there are now some new non-stimulant (and non-scheduled) meds on the market that are effective in some adults.
Your plea shows you are willing and needing to work at this marriage. I married right out of high school to my high school sweetheart and we have been married for 40 years. We have 4 wonderful grown children. Everyday we work at our marriage, give and take. Yours is definitely worth seeing the clergy or marriage counselor. Please do not hesitate, see one now. Prayers are with you.
it's just not about you and your wife, your son will be watching how you behave. Please set a good example. One more thing. God loves you and don't be so hard on youself. Take it one day at a time. If you do even a few of the things I mentioned above, I guarantee your life will get better!
I hate to say it, but it sounds like the bloom is off the rose. When the little lady finds fault with everything you say or do, it may have reached the stage where she's just trying very hard to give you the message that it's over as far as she is concerned. When she's threatening divorce over taking out the garbage, well, let's just say that it ain't really about the garbage.
Maybe you do need to do some growing up, and realizing that is the first step in doing so. Don't be too surprised if whatever you do just won't be good enough for the wife.
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Drink, Drink, everyone Drink, it's not as bad as they used to think.......
Join the Army. Why not? Are you past their age limit or something?
BTW, I doubt this is legit. If anything it is the WIFE who wrote this plea. Rarely would someone say, "I am having trouble growing up..." Come on, nobody says that. I wouldn't want to be around an adult who spouts that.
For starters, every morning ask God's help through the day....
..it doesn't have to be a fancy prayer....just "Lord, please help me"...
...then, ask your wife what is important that you get done that day....for that day alone...
...then write it down and do it.
If she's halfway eager to making this marriage work as you seem to be, she will appreciate your efforts.
The next day, start again....take one day at a time.
Then, if your wife will not join you in this effort, and only criticizes you....
...you will know you have given it a good try again and again....
...and your conscience will be easier to deal with.
Try very hard to consider your son....and spend as much time with him as possible.
Be kind to your wife even if she's not kind to you....(then you will know you have done your best)...
God bless, I will pray for you.
Good for you for realizing that your marriage is in trouble and that you are willing to change. Every adult has to go through the process of facing their own life and some actually succeed.
My most sincere advise is to seek out spiritual and marital counseling. Marriage is a God thing, not just a legal and domestic arrangement. Without His help, you are faced with struggles that are just too big. Without parents and other close family, you need a network of people that you can depend on to love you through this. A Godly church family can be there for you. You are in my prayers.
Or die.
Good luck. And curse your parents forever; that's a parent's job one.
Time for both of you to stop what you are doing and recommit to this marriage. 1. Get involved in your religious community and start talking to your religious leader. In my community, our rabbis are our counselors for most issues. 2. Seek out a good marriage counselor and plan to do the daily work required to re-establish your commitment and your trust in your marriage. 3. Get yourself a palm pilot or a daily planner and start writing down what you need to remember to do each day. Don't give up on yourself or your family.
Go STRAIGHT HOME from work. Don't stop at a bar or at your friend's house. Don't play computer games at night or surf porn sites. In fact, stay off the computer and spend the evening with your wife.
Help your wife make supper and help to clean up the kitchen and do laundry. Don't throw your clothes on the floor and help your wife pick up clutter every night.
Behave like a GENTLEMAN. Say please, thank you, I'm sorry, and refrain from cursing in her presence. Be kind to her so that she remembers what she saw in you in the first place.
Also, don't put all the family Christmas shopping off on her. She's not your assistant. Especially, don't buy her a Christmas gift that has to be plugged in. Go to Macy's and buy her expensive perfume. Then buy her a certificate to a spa so that she can get a facial and a massage.
Somebody needs to smack you really good across the face and pull the plug on your internet and your Playstation 2. Grow up and get a life you selfish little @$$hole. Let the wife and kid go home to her parents to restart their own life. They will be better off if you stayed away and you separated early. That gives the soon-to-be ex a chance to find a real husband and father for her child.
Whiney little boy, no wonder she's miserable...
Leave her. She sounds like a real bitch. If you've only been married for 2 years and it's already like this, no sense in wasting anymore time on her. There are (literaly) 100's of single women out there who will treat you with respect, as long as it's returned. Go find em.
Ditch her now while its early. Don't even think about marraige again until you're at least 30,l preferably 35. Party hearty, dude!
Fess up with the dirt . . .
You have a bunch of friend you party with several times a week, you are not earning money, etc, etc.
It's not the little stuff bothering her.