[RosieCotton]

They aren't looking for fellowship, only to win at something.

I think that's the bottom line. They don't want advice or pity or commiseration...they just want to put people down.

[HairOfTheDog]

Sometimes I am up for debate, I can dig that, but about halfway through it you can tell when you are debating someone who isn't there for the right answer, they are there to out-fight the opponent. It leads them to say silly things when the topic is men and women.... Maybe we have an awful lot of people who get ~it~ wrong in this country, but pairing up is still the main goal in most people's lives, and even the ones who get it wrong wanted happiness. I would assert that no one goes into a relationship with malice, but it is amazing how many talk that way.