Evangelicals Need to Stop Shaming Men: They need to stop delivering hectoring "Man up!" lectures that simply drive men away

Aaron Ren.com ^ | October 26, 2023 | Aaron M. Ren

[C19fan]

Welcome to those of you who just joined after seeing me on Dr. Steve Turley’s show. Thanks so much for signing up. I cover a lot of topics here but the main focus is the intersection of the future of the evangelical church with men’s issues. I recently wrote an op-ed in the Wall Street Journal about why men turn to online influencers instead of traditional authorities. And I just finished a five part series digging a bit deeper into some of the reasons I highlighted.

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Wouldn’t you know it, this week in World magazine’s opinion section, Nathanael Blake from EPPC wrote an essay arguing that an aversion to marriage by men is unmanly. He writes:

[frogjerk]

Marriage is not every man's vocation but it is the preferred state of man as per the Lord in Genesis.

A man needs to work to find a good woman and eventually a wife who is also God fearing.

[frogjerk]

What about men who really do need to man-up? We all know a few.

They are at home worshiping sports and primarily football on Sunday instead of worshiping the Lord.

Sports are great but they have been setup as an idol and now even worse, sports gambling is going full force. Not good.

[frogjerk]

Pastors continually ignore Paul’s advice that it is better not to marry.

And if St. Paul's advice is taken by any man he is called to serve the Lord and celibacy if he remains single. Otherwise, it is better for him to marry then to burn.

[Nextrush]

So much religious subculture embraced the sports subculture in my lifetime.

[faucetman]

This all sounds like a load of crap from “organized religion”.

[lurk]

Masculine men exist in individual churches. In those churches, they do not so much talk or scold about it, but they just quietly live it. It’s a culture.

[SunkenCiv]

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[MachIV]

Inspite of my training and preparation I never was able to afford a family so by default most women are going to reject a guy like that outright.

I am 56 but apparently in the lingo of younger generations, I am in street terms what they call a “black pilled omega males”. It is lower than beta.

Guys in that genre do not ever secure marriage and rarely even girlfriends for that matter.

[Brass Lamp]

Is this going to turn into one of those threads wherein fake Christians will claim that God wants men to marry non-virgins (to low-ball it)? Would we even have a surplus of leftover women if we maintained biblical directives regarding STONING?

[Mean Daddy]

I read on Facebook where a student asked his Sensei why he talked about peace while training them to be violent. The Sensei replied that he would rather have warriors working in a garden, then a gardener in a war.

[fini]

Roger. It was inconsiderate of me to state that my path is the “truth.”

[MachIV]

No worries. Good to hear from you. Have a good rest of the weekend.

[Varsity Flight]

Fortunately, most animals know how to treat Adam 2.

They don’t even want a divorce.

The others, not much so....%