Posted on 05/24/2023 7:46:17 PM PDT by CheshireTheCat
I've worked for a large bank for 6 years. I have excellent performance reviews. The female co-worker lives/works in California. I do not work with her on any projects nor is she related to my team. Nor are we in the same office. She reached out looking to leave CA to NC. There was a position open on my team & sent her the application. She applied and wasn't granted an interview. She called me mad and frustrated. She filed a complaint two days ago against me with HR. We last texted 3 months ago; HR has this text string. I met with HR, and I'm being investigated. In one text, I said she was "pretty and young". She's accusing me of tracking her and asking verbally if she sold her home and if she wanted to move to NC. I won't have future contact with her. I presented to HR an e-mail chain of her telling me she doesn't like CA and that she wanted to move to NC. I used to consider her a friendly acquaintance. I'm told HR will make a "recommendation" to my manager in 3 days. I have a good relationship with my manager. In the complaint, I did NOT hear the words "sexual harassment" but only "uncomfortable" - I think she is retaliating against me.
Very simple
In today’s day and age, unless you’re going to suddenly identify as Trans, I believe the phrase is “ You’re f*cked” .
My daughter was recounting a co-worker (guy) at work asking her if she wore a bikini or a one-piece swimsuit just the other day. Then somehow their birthdays got brought up and he was talking about the compatibility of their two astrological signs.
“Yeah - he’s a bit weird. Nice enough, just a bit off. It didn’t bother me too much, I just try to change the subject.”
Although she does complain about some of the customers. “I’m just being nice and friendly and doing my job and they think then it is okay to hit on me - what jerks!”
So you posted this story and we are supposed to comment but you are really asking a question in the first post which is maybe similar to the posted article? Why not just thread your own situation in a vanity post and not make it so confusing?
“How severely can I be disciplined at work for being accused of making a female co-worker feel uncomfortable via text?”
If you were a guy, I’d say worse case you won’t need one of those “tuck friendly” bathing suits they sell at Target.
The problem is it’s in writing. A “he said she said” would give you a better chance at a defense. Be prepared for the worst. A friend of mine was terminated for telling a female coworker that was working late, “having my to stay after work? You must have been a naughty girl.”
Never ever do that.
Time to “identify” as “trans.” The only way to survive in the woke corporate environment is to outrank your false accuser in the hierarchy of victimhood.
Them chicks be crazy.... : )
If you look at some gal, some get ideas you are attracted to them.
If you do not look at them they are insulted that you are not attracted to them.
If you say “hello, how is everything” they think you are making a move on them.
If you just say “hello” and nothing else they think you still are attractive to them but are weird.
It ain’t just chicks. The gossipers are as bad, men and babes. They throw out comments and never say it started with them. They heard about it thru the grapevine.
BTW never say chicks or babes or gal at work : )
Or look at photos of them on a company computer.....
Microsoft Office and OneDrive at work will record all writings and upload all files to a server. All web browser history is stored on a network server.
At my last job I had a manager who looked at your web history. He even commented I did not go to game sites and movie sites like the others. He was also a lousy boss who drove people to find other jobs just so he could hire someone cheaper and collect a bonus for saving money so look out for those types.
I was a high school teacher super bad attitude got written up 304 timed no joke kept job 28 years retired made a bunch in real estate I once went 3 months without getting written up
She then reports me for harrassment or something. It blew over, but I only spoke to that woman on a professional basis after that.
For years, I made it a point not to comment on any females dress or looks. The closest I ever came to doing so, is when the same woman as above (this was before the FY incident) came into work wearing the exact same clothes as the day before. My comment at the time - "What, did you slepp in those clothes." I was told later by another female co-worker, that the woman I made the comment to was so embarrassed, after work she went shoping and purchased several wardrobes.
So CISCO is worse than ever?
My social life never revolved around my work
I work at a small manufacturing company with no women. It’s great.
It sound like your friend is in a cybersecurity role, perhaps monitoring for insider threats. I have a friend in a similar role for a large corporation.
Statistics show that most intrusions come from inside a company, not from outside hackers. Insider threat security monitors employees to ensure that they don't access intellectual property unless their job requires it. Most times, employees don't realize what they did and internal investigations clear them of wrongdoing, but sometimes disgruntled employees do malicious things.
If your friend's company is serious about cybersecurity, they must be prepared for people who get caught to say or do anything to deflect from their wrongdoing, including making accusations against the people whose job it is to monitor for insider threats. From your description, is this a case where the woman who "violated a procedure" didn't get the promotion because of the violation and is blaming it on your friend rather than her own actions?
If so, it would be wrong for HR to undermine the company's cybersecurity every time someone who gets caught accuses the security staff by investigating the security staff. The nature of the insider threat cybersecurity role puts those people in the direct line of fire for these kinds of accusations, and if the company doesn't have their backs then they will always have turnover in this critical role to the survival of the company.
-PJ
There's a lot of videos on You Tube where young women, in their late 20’s and 30’s who whine and complain that in work environments men simply don't talk to them unless it strictly business related and they complain that in gyms, clubs and bars it's pretty much the same thing. A large number of these women complain also they're afraid that they will be spending the rest of their lives living, and dying alone. Well girls, you wanted ''empowerment''. You got it.
Yep! And NEVER be alone with ANY woman at work without a witness. NEVER.
Exactly. Its sad that it has to be this way but, that's what HR and Feminazis have done. I can only be social - if at all - with male colleagues at work. Its best to keep your social life utterly separate from work. Once again, this is another reason working from home is vastly superior. Its much easier to keep conversations limited to strictly business and there is much less scope for anyone to accuse you of anything.....and understand that if you are a White Heterosexual Male, you are Target Numero Uno. There is nothing those HR types would love more than a chance to wreck your career. This happened to a friend of mine recently though he seems thankfully, to have landed on his feet.
tell everyone to FO... if you get let go then that isnt a company I would want to work for anyway!! WTF do you people put up with this shit for!!??
” If he does manage to keep his job, they are going to make his life a living hell in that company until he quits.”
Exactly
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