Posted on 05/15/2022 11:07:36 AM PDT by Kaslin
Since the new millennium, what I term "rearview-mirror parenting" has precipitated in parents a sobering self-appraisal of how successfully they raised their children. Myers-Briggs probably won't venture to offer online assessment tools for that because I doubt many people really want to know their percentile. With the advent of Facebook, life's complaints are a thing of the past anyway. Yet friends with tales from Worry Land are semi-privately sharing their concerns — some straightforwardly and others cryptically with furrowed brow. Here are some examples.
Some years back, our financial adviser was going through a divorce. We asked how his children were handling it. "You know," he said, "kids are resilient." Is that not quintessential morning talk-show therapeutics? When normal life patterns are decidedly interrupted, people retreat to buzz clichés to cope.
We have friends whose adult children have moved in with their significant others. Our friends chuckle with elevated eyebrows. "Nobody seems in a hurry to get married anymore," they say. Some of our friends' sons and daughters are having their first child, and the mom is the daughter's event coordinator, planning the wedding and the baby shower simultaneously. When we enthused, "That's great," we could sense their unease that the time-honored carts and horses lacked order and foresight.
A friend of my wife posted that her adult son was doing some wonderful charity work and that even atheists can do good works. It was a kind of "whoa!" moment as we pondered her response to a gauntlet no one had thrown down — a confession of sorts without an explanation. I wondered if her son was on the thread.
A couple we know and adore went so far as to abandon their church and religion altogether after their adult daughter dumped her marriage and then "came out."
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Kids are being taught that religious-type beliefs are evil.
Friends of mine have adult children, who have announced they are never having children. At least one such child says the world is so screwed up, they say, no point to bring children into such a world. So my friends will miss out on ever being grandparents.
Outwardly you could say that these adult children are well educated, have good jobs, are responsible citizens, the whole 9 yards. Yet they have no desire to be parents.
At least one of the adult children I’m thinking of, is married and they are regular churchgoers. So at least for them, we can’t say they fell away from religion.
If/when my son asks my advice on marriage, I will tell him the following:
I married your mother, supported her (financially, occupationally and emotionally) for 16 years. She cheated on me multiple times. I was always faithful, not perfect, but faithful.
Divorced in a no-fault state. Her “punishment”? Half of the assets (to which she contributed approximately zero), about $150,000. Primary custody of our son (60/40). Child support totaling $200,000 over ten years.
So you wanna get married son? Have at it, but understand that modern divorce laws are a loaded gun pointed at the man’s head.
My child has taught me much
She and her husband both have successful careers and a dog plus they are buying a very nice house in a good neighborhood. They have no student loan debt. They are contributing members of society
Yes children are resilient. Got tha I am grateful
I’m sorry to hear of your friend’s plight.
My son and his fiancee and planning a January 2023 wedding. They are regular church members and are looking forward to welcoming children.
My two youngest have a medical condition. It is highly unlikely they will be able to have children. My middle child is okay with it but my youngest wants to be a dad someday. Praying that my youngest finds a nice girl and they can hopefully have a family by IVF or adoption.
People who don’t want children should not have them. They will not welcome them as precious gifts from God.
Hopefully your friend can embrace a grandchild from the couple that stayed in the faith.
not evil, but lots of folks don’t think religion fits in with modern times.
They don’t have any faith so they don’t teach their kids any either.
This statement is likewise a sort of accusation without an explanation.
Is the author implying that atheist are per se incapable of performing good works?!
Regards,
“…not evil, but lots of folks don’t think religion fits in with modern times.
They don’t have any faith so they don’t teach their kids any either.”
Not evil? Sounds exactly evil to me.
well my definition of evil is different then yours i guess.
I’d say more lazy or disinterested.
We are seeing the coming-of-age of kids who were shuttled around as infants and toddlers in cars with “Baby on Board” signs suction-cupped to the windows. They were raised by people who had been taught to be scared of shadows, and they taught their kids to be scared. So the kids run to any weird ideas that help them feel “safe”, part of some “community”.
Progs are cultists.
No religion has taught that for itself. To many priests raping kids. That is why I left the church.
‘Is the author implying that atheist are per se incapable of performing good works?!’
is that not the prevailing zeitgeist on this very website...?
‘Is the author implying that atheist are per se incapable of performing good works?!’
is that not the prevailing zeitgeist on this very website...?
It is like conservatism.
“Good works is not a simple meaning”
Neither does it save.
I wonder how often it happens that an ex-wife gets a significant chunk of money in a divorce settlement and then 15 years later she’s “borrowing” (with no intention of ever repaying, hence the quotes) money from her kids because she has nothing left.
I also wonder how often the kids figure this out when dad passes away and they find out he had significant assets (because he managed his money well, unlike mom) and then they find the divorce paperwork in dad’s papers and it all becomes VERY clear what happened.
The turd on the cherry sundae would be if this all happened in a filial responsibility state and the kids ended up having to pay for mom’s medical care because she mismanaged the money she got in the divorce...
is that not the prevailing zeitgeist on this very website...?
No idea! And/or don't care what the prevailing Zeitgeist is.
But can you answer my original question? Is the author insinuating that there's something particularly remarkable about an atheist valuing human life, feeling compassion, or acting in accordance with firmly held humanitarian beliefs?
Regards,
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