Have you tried Lindell’s group?
I will pray for you.
Private message me.
An alcoholic is stranded in a deep well. He calls out for help over and over again.
Along comes a doctor. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas. He whips out a prescription pad and drops a script for medication.into the well. “Good luck, friend!” he says, and walks on.
Along comes a priest. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas. He calls out, “I will pray for you, my son!” and walks on.
Along comes a recovered alcoholic. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas, and he jumps right into the well with the him. The alcoholic is stunned! “What did you do that for? Now you are stuck in this well WITH me.”
“Not quite,” the recovered alcoholic says. “I’ve been here before, and I know the way out.”
Go to AA, they are everywhere, and free. Be open to the heartfelt and truly American spirituality you will find there.
There is a power greater than yourself, let Providence be your guide.
The only requirement to be a member of AA is a desire to stop drinking. It’s not a sobriety contest.
May G-d be with you.
The courage to ask is the courage, I think, to walk through the storm. May you be blessed and healed to God’s true shalom.
Reaching out online is a good start. You need to do more than chat online. AA is the best source I can recommend. The 12-step program with spiritually-grounded principles focuses on helping an addict avoid the compulsion to drink alcohol. AA is a fellowship that provides support, at no charge, for people who want to stop drinking. Its 12-step approach regards alcoholism as both a medical and a spiritual problem and promotes abstinence to facilitate recovery. Open meeting can be attended by anyone. Closed meetings by members only. New members should start with 90 meetings in 90 days. Most long-term success in those with at least 2.5 meetings/wk.
Another option is SMART Recovery (the acronym is from “Self Management and Recovery Training”):
Meetings can be located at their main Web site:
http://www.smartrecov ery.org.
Not a spiritual program and does not consider alcoholism to be a disease, is the best-known alternative to AA.
Also see www.rethinkingdrinking.niaaa.nih.gov
Things one can say to avoid drinking without having to declare yourself as a non-drinker:
I can’t tonight; I’m driving.
I overdid it last night, so I’m taking the night off.
I’m on a detox that doesn’t allow alcohol.
I’m watching my weight.
I’m trying to cut back.
I’m doing an alcohol-free challenge.
I don’t feel like it tonight.
I have an important meeting tomorrow, so I want to keep a clear head.
One day at a time.
Seek out a local AA chapter. They really do care, and they really do help.
Bump for later. I can’t say I’ve ever been in your shoes but I will check for updates because I’m genuinely uplifted by your frankness, humility and sincerity in facing this challenge. May God be with you always, FRiend.
You are doing well.
I am forking to that road. Drinking is a way to deal with everything.
It will suck the life out of you and kill you in the end.
I owe my life and everyone in it an apology.
My daughter saw my struggles and sent me this book. It’s short and somewhat repetitive, but it just made so much sense. I prayed, walked into AA one day after I read it and never looked back. I have zero desire for alcohol. It’ll be two years next month. Maybe I’m an anomaly but it worked for me.
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stop-drinking-now-allen-carr/1120403871
AA is a fine resource. There is also a Christian-based ministry called “Celebrate Recovery” that can be found all over the country if you want a faith-based discussion group.
The first step in recovery is to call out for help so you’re doing the right thing but I don’t think FR is private enough or focused on your issue enough to be the proper forum you need.
In either AA or CR, you are likely to be paired with an “accountability partner” with similar issues whom you contact anytime the itch gets to you.
Either way, I wish you well.
The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem.
Kudos.
That stated, you will be harming only one person if you fail to 1. Contact a local Alcoholics Anonymous chapter immediately, 2. Follow through on the program, and, 3. Sponsor another.
Pick up the phone. Do it now.
Thank you for reaching out. Prayers for you to find the answers.
My mother was an alcoholic, who died at 64. My ex-husband was an alcoholic, who died at 54, which was devastating for my kids.
Best of luck in your efforts to find your best life.
I will have been sober for 12 years this July. You need to become convinced at an almost sub-atomic level that you need to stop. Coming within a hair’s breadth of losing my family gave me the motivation to get help. Get with people who know how to do this, open your ears and close your mouth! It requires learned skills, which you can acquire. It ain’t fun but it is necessary, and your life will be better for it.
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Been there. Dont waste your time quitting to please others, or yourself. When you hate it, you will quit it. Build a life where you hate alcohol for robbing you of that, or just grow to hate it, then you can quit. Till then, raise a beer, be a good human and enjoy life. You will quit it when you hate it.
My sister and brother-in-law are on a conference call tonight with a fellow AA member hundreds of miles away to celebrate his 50 years sober.
I come from a family alcoholics, and my daughter and I are the only ones who can have a glass of wine now and then and not want more. My AA relatives told me that an alcoholic has three choices: you get sober, lose your mind, or die. My mother lost her mind, my father and son died, and my sister got sober.
This is very serious stuff and I’m glad to see you are serious about it.. An online meeting with FRiends will be wonderful and if you can find a nearby in-person AA meeting, please go. If there are a few in your town, go to all of them and find the one you like the best. You’ll make good friends and find support at any hour of any day on the phone.
Keep going back. It works.
God bless you.
Veto!
(The Girl)
Find a local AA meeting that clicks with you
It’s a great life. Been doing it for almost 26 years. Wouldn’t change it for anything
AA has the wrong approach. With them you are always being reminded that you are broken. You can be made whole and free.
Long article, read it completely.