Posted on 02/27/2018 7:43:29 PM PST by cazmandeuce
Wow, my 25 year old boy called tonight to talk about asking his girlfriend to marry him. First, I had a feeling this conversation was coming based on what I could tell from what I saw from their relationship over the last year. They have been dating for over a year now, both in their PHD program, and I can tell they are soul mates. Oh my. Second, that's my first son. Is he ready.... My little buddy is thinking about such grown up stuff. Any parents going through the same stuff? Oh, they grow up so fast.......
My 35 yr old son really had his heart broken a few years ago. She did it on Christmas. He has not had a relationship since. The thing I worry about is his being alone in his later years. He has some very close friends so I know he will be okay. His 4 nieces and nephews will be there for him too.
Thanks for your detailed response.
We may disagree on some things but you certainly win in the data and facts department.
Impressive.:-)
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Congratulations.
He's 25 years old. If you did your job right, he has been ready for some time.
And to be clear, I am not happy things are the way they are. I wish they were diferent, but I do not duck reality when it isn’t pretty. Marriage is a terrible deal for men.
When you have time, listen to these young women. I strongly encourage you to do so.
The discovery process of asets s so the court and lawyers all know how much the couple has, and how much they can take from them. The lawyers both know, and encourage animosity between the husband and wife to increase court time fees and billable hours. If you have a lot they know they can take more and deliberately drag things out, encourage women primarily to make moves to antagonize the man and cause further legal expenses that require more cort time or ore lawyer filings, etc.
Nothing wrong with living alone. Its worse when you live with people and they make you wish they were alone. Men are also not like women, solitude and quiet for reflection and peace is appreciated by most men. Women can’t handle being alone nearly as well as men ad you make the mistake of projecting your own experieces with not liking eig alone ont men.
Looks like my tablet surface needs cleaning....
WOW! How is it a typo prone sweet talkin’psychotic like you isn’t snapped up? I’m not saying your wrong about much. But, dude, would you say you have some nuclear toxic anger issues?
Reality has it’s shortcomings, granted. But it can be controlled. Don’t give up on love, man ... it’s real too. And there’s plenty of fairy tales that come true.
No anger. Reality is sometimes brutally unpleasant.
You make the mistake so many around here make. Because we dont share your view and can defend ours well, we must be angry and unhappy. That is you trying to rationalize and diminish someone else who doesnt hold your point of view. Its called guilt shaming and its a female tactic that doesn’t work on me anymore.
And again you can point to nothing I have said that is incorrect.
And since you decided to toss a clinical term around to denigrate my view,
Whom is the real psychopath here, me the guy citing stats by the cdc on mariage failure rates that show almost no man is going to not be divorce raped in todays society, or you, the guy who knows from these same stats at least 94% of guys will wind up divorce raped within the first ten years of marriage, but yet still encourages them too ahead and get married?
YOU are the pyschopath because you see the stats and know they are extremely dismal for men but do not care and still encourage them to be divorce raped. That is psychopathic.
Work on your comprehension skills, Sport. I as much said your point of view, in hard facts has validity. That’s your first confusion. I never said anything about “unhappy”, did I, there’s your second. “Guilt Shaming” ? Can’t say I’m up on the new rhetoric for old ills. Usually rely on not being easily manipulated, knowing who I am and not built for backing down. It requires gonads ... you should try it, sad sack.
I didn’t mean to ‘denigrate your view” I thought I was clear that what I’m saying is you are one angry dude ... oh, and weird.
And you talk big but try to backtrack when called on it.
You say you are not trying to denigrate me but you call me a psychopath. Riiiiiight. Thats jst a blatant name calling attack.
Either admit you were trying to denigrate me which you clearly were by that term, or apologize for calling me a pyschopath. Either stand by your words or take them back.
I have no intention of trying to sell you on marriage, that is a personal choice. Here are some recent statistics, which show USA is not highest divorce rates in world. Interesting:
I see recognizing the subtlety of sarcasm joins the exhaustive list of your shortcomings. And no, I won’t be a party to normalizing your dissociative disorder by apologizing.
Everyone sees exactly what you are. From your very first post every one of them had personal attacks in them. You try and call it sarcasm to downplay or deny it. And then try to shift blame onto me for not picking up on your “sense of humor.” Every single one of your posts had personal insults in them towards me because you don’t like what I am posting, or how I am saying it.
People wil see your posts and mine and know exactly who is personally attacking and insulting whom.
Women nowadays have been raised on toxic feminism.
(SJWs always *project* which is why all the fuss is over toxic masculinity.)
And pre-marital promiscuity both ruins a woman's ability to bond, and renders her taste more...jaded. As she has other partners and memories to compare her husband to; and, as the carefree life of travel-and-sex through the 20s, seems positively glamorous compared to the workaday responsibilities of marriage.
The article uses the erroneous 50% divorce rate as I explained in a prior post. The CDC puts the rate of divorce for a first marriage within the first 10 years between 93-97%.
Why would you encourage a man to get married when they have a 93-97% chance of getting divorce raped within 10 years? Women initiate 80% of divorces so you know its not bad for them, they get the cash and prizes, they know this, there is no downside for divorce for them, the men get destroyed.
Maybe you do not care it’s the men that, as a rule, get destroyed. If the women were the ones that the courts were biased against, maybe you would be saying to your girlfriends, dont get married, 93-97% chance you’ll wind up divorced and financially screwed by your ex husband.
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