Posted on 01/27/2014 4:28:25 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.
Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? Theres no way those two things are the same. Its hard for me to believe its not just verbally placating these people so they dont get in trouble with the mommy bloggers.
Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if its a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These arent accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And heres the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?
If women can do anything, why are we still content with applauding them for doing nothing?
I want to have a shower for a woman when she backpacks on her own through Asia, gets a promotion, or lands a dream job not when she stays inside the box and does the house and kids thing which is the path of least resistance. The dominate cultural voice will tell you these are things you can do with a husband and kids, but as Ive written before, thats a lie. Its just not reality.
You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.
I hear women talk about how hard it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. Its because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they dont have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men dont care to manage a household. They arent conditioned to think stupid things like that are important.
Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work. They are not equal. Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business. This word play is holding us back.
Either way, we lose. Prob best to keep them apart. :-)
She’s in Thought Catalog, wow!
What is Thought Catalog? A pennysaver with liberal commentary?
Yeah, there are alot of women (including men) who came of age at the beginning of the Women’s Movement who are now retired or nearing retirement and are angry at their daughters for being homemakers. Basically saying, I blazed this trail for you why aren’t you following it?
I had a long talk with my Dad, just this past weekend, about how difficult it was to find a good woman. I'm sure it's not an uncommon complaint, dating back generations (Og look! He no find woman for cave!) ... but I think it's harder for my generation, and those going forward, specifically because of feminism.
Lots of women, like this author, are being told from birth that not only they can but they should compete with men. Constantly, and on the same playing fields.
The reality is that they can't compete on even terms. And additionally - the reality is that men and women both can be *very* successful, just by not competing against each other, and by keeping their playing fields separate.
For instance, I'm an excellent Dad, but I'm a terrible mother. I recognize that, found an excellent mother for my kids, and stick with what I'm good at. However..... Feminism dictates that women can be either father or mother (or both, if they'd like) equally well. Unfortunately reality intrudes and (with some exceptions) women find out that they're terrible subsitutes for fathers, with predictable results being played out right now on society and the family structure that is society's bedrock.
There is nothing more important than being a wife and mother - and in that order. I pity the poor person who wrote this article that she will probably never know real love in her life and that she’ll likely die alone in a nursing home with no one around to care that she’s dying.
No one could seem to come up with an understanding of why she was doing this. Or it was too politically incorrect to state what was so clear and obvious.
She’ll get the “slow code blue”...
or, more likely, she’ll just be euthanized when her Obamacare allotment gets used up.
Post-abortion trauma.
Yeah, backpacking solo through Asia is a notable achievement but I notice she neither named the Asian countries nor suggested Africa or South/Latin America. Life is precious and should not be thrown away without good reason.
Doesn't this guy deserve some?
I didn’t give my kids that experience, but when I see them making choices based on a strong character, I know I’ve succeeded. (happy face)
Everybody’s such a stickler these days!
;^)
I bought and rented out mobile homes. And I mostly work from home, yes. I knew what you meant by “fantastic” and I thank you for the enthusiastic cheering! :D
ha. Me either, at least not yet, and the future ain't looking real good. :-)
But you obviously saw my point. There's nothing more satisfying than working hard on your kids (it's harder than anything I've ever done in the workplace) and seeing all that labor bear fruit.
Why someone would choose a workplace over family, frankly, is beyond me. Maybe because they don't know how fulfilling a successful family is.
Voluntary Human Extinction Society.
Didn’t Stanley Anne Dunham backpack through Asia working on her Masters while abandoning young Barack to the likes of the bisexual pervert and communist Frank Marshal Davis?
Imagine, to this lady, that would have been a very proud accomplishment.
And the mere thought of that for ANYONE makes me very very sad.
I don’t want a lonely fate like that for anyone. It tears my heart out.
:-(
Doing laundry? Maybe not.
But raising your replacements is.
"Voluntary Human Extinction Movement" notwithstanding.
“wow. somebody is awfully bitter! dayuuuuum.”
Imagine her 80 years old and alone; in the nicer nursing home she can now afford with the choices she made.
Sad....
No family; no grandkids...
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