6. Take his name...don’t hyphenate yours.
Much of this strikes me as self and sex centered, not bond centered.
Nagging I can agree with, and sure, BOTH partners should make sure they are healthy and vibrant in the conjugal relations department. And keeping a good sense of self is good, UP TO A POINT.
But, what about
I really need to fully read the Venerable Bishop Fulton Sheen's Three to Get Married
Ladies, keeping a guy happy is really simple.
1) Have sex with him frequently.
2) Keep nagging to a minimum. If he hasn’t done it after you’ve told him ten times, it’s an indication he really doesn’t want to. Figure something else out.
I thought the biggest mistake would be - instead of letting husband be himself, the wife alwasy tries to change him to what SHE wants him to be?
Is that nagging? I don’t think nagging covers it.
# 1 Be more selective of the person that you choose to
marry.
I suppose this is decent advice to keeping a man happy. However, most men are happy so long as their wives don’t nag them and are physically available for intimacy. The rest is gravy. I can think of only one divorced couple in the last 20 years where the man was the instigator. Every other one of them it was the woman. She was unhappy, she never learned to love herself, she never really loved him, blah, blah, blah. Oprah told her to do it.
Some people were never meant to be married.
This article makes sense. All 5 of these reasons and then some led to my divorce. Especially constant nagging. Marriage is dull by nature. It has to be kept exciting. I tried. She didn’t.. Bye bye.
this article is heterocentric and should be banned to keep from hurting the rare
gay freeper ego.
Not me personally!
I agree with all but the last (maintaining your personal stock). Half of the married women that I know are involved in MLM crap, be it Mary Kay, Avon, Amway, Clothing, even one got her kicks out of Stamping stuff (with ink).
I know that virtually all of them didn’t make any significant money, but they stressed a lot of relationships and spent a lot of time on that.
So, women, if you want to do something to feel useful, get a real job or take real classes (not University of Phoenix)...but stay clear of this MLM stuff - it’s a black hole.
One other comment. Virtually ALL the advice in the comments (and the story) echo EXACTLY what Dr. Laura says on her radio show (and in her books).
...and yet most people would not be caught dead having anything to do with her.
The writer forgot
“Keep conversation to a minimum”
Three out of the five have to do with sex. This reads like some cheesy Cosmo titillator than true advice on sustaining a marriage. I mean, does this author really think that all husbands care about is their wives’ bodies? i wouldn’t ask my middle-aged wife/mother of three to wear a “sexy” teddy to bed any more than she would ask this spare-tired middle-aged schlub to wear a Speedo. because frankly, my wife would be beautiful to me if she was wearing a home-made gunny sack.
It’s her heart I find attractive, not just the parts of her punished by gravity.
Have not yet read the piece, but it had better include “I’ll fix him later”. Trying to change their chosen guy is probably a big contributor to the problem.
6-10. Don’t try and fix me later.
Holy scripture lays out the way things should be. With modern day feminism, we've witnessed an explosion in divorce.
Let the guy be the protector, bread winner, spiritual leader. STOP making lil wussy’s out of our male kiddo's. Teach a boy to grow up and be a man!
Two captains attempting to drive the ship ultimately results in the ship on the rocks.
I for one would like to see more traditional male/female roles in marriage.
#1 mistake that leads to divorce: Marry the wrong woman. Men, don’t marry the wrong woman. If you keep your large head in control of the situation, you’ll know who the wrong women are.
#2 mistake that leads to divorce: Getting married in the first place.
Today, with the law stacked as absurdly as it is against men in family and divorce courts, I tell young men (under the age of 30 or so) “Don’t get married. I don’t care how much she says she loves you. She can strip you of your rights with a claim of domestic violence to the police or a court, and she can give you a life of penury and misery in divorce court. Do you want to take a chance of ruining the rest of your life?”
Dunno, I’m a confirmed bachelor, but I can state that playing videogames over his shoulder during sex is a little off-putting...
Cool advice from a tiny black woman