Posted on 05/02/2013 2:54:15 AM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
The five common mistakes can drive even the greatest of great husbands away.
There is nothing more beautiful than two people journeying through life together! As women, we can place a lot of emphasis on getting married but not enough on staying married. Here are five common mistakes that women make in marriage that you should be sure to avoid:
1. Nagging. Being nagged by their wives has become so common in marriage that it's become almost expected by men! As a wife, I can say that saddens me especially since nagging is so completely unnecessary! Do not allow yourself to become a stereotypical wife by paying attention to the way that you speak to your husband. Your job as his mate is to uplift him, not bring him down with your words. Speaking to your guy in a positive, loving way will go a lot further than nagging in his ear and fussing at him. An important fact to know is that studies have shown that the male brain does not process the female voice the same way it would another man's voice (Source: Discovery). To have effective communication with our husbands, we should not only remember to watch what we say but also how we say it.
2. Forgetting to be his girlfriend. Continue to be his girlfriend (even if you happen to be his wife). Remember how hard you worked to make sure you were flawless whenever you saw him at the start of your relationship? Don't stop once you get a ring. Keep it sexy. I know that age, pregnancy and other health factors can get our bodies all "out of whack", but we still should keep ourselves looking good for our husbands.
Also, throw away those flannel pajamas that you sleep in....
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6. Take his name...don’t hyphenate yours.
Got that right
Much of this strikes me as self and sex centered, not bond centered.
Nagging I can agree with, and sure, BOTH partners should make sure they are healthy and vibrant in the conjugal relations department. And keeping a good sense of self is good, UP TO A POINT.
But, what about
I really need to fully read the Venerable Bishop Fulton Sheen's Three to Get Married
Just when I thought I’d seen everything.
Nikki Ransom-Alfred is a Certified Master Sex Expert and Sex Coach, having assisted individuals and couples from Ohio to South Africa find sexual fulfillment. Her advice has appeared in and on various media outlets such as Cosmopolitan.com, The Other Paper, Bounce TV, and more!
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When you're a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
Ladies, keeping a guy happy is really simple.
1) Have sex with him frequently.
2) Keep nagging to a minimum. If he hasn’t done it after you’ve told him ten times, it’s an indication he really doesn’t want to. Figure something else out.
I thought the biggest mistake would be - instead of letting husband be himself, the wife alwasy tries to change him to what SHE wants him to be?
Is that nagging? I don’t think nagging covers it.
Craigslist is chock full of handymen who’ll do small repairs for a little cash, a six pack and a sandwich.
# 1 Be more selective of the person that you choose to
marry.
Hell, that’s nothing. I have a Ph.D. in Sex. I’ve helped hundreds of beautiful women find sexual release. Hey, I’m just that kind of nice guy.
I remember bishop Sheen. A brilliant man. And I am sure some of his marital suggestions are worthy of review.
But having a never married, celebate cleric tell me about the complexities of marriage is worse than Monday morning quarterbacking as I may have been some sort of quarterback once.
Bratch I’ve told you before. You cannot just use my wife’s photo where she’s putting her lipstick on. Come’on. Now all the FR guys are gonna want to meet her!
Preach it, Sister or Brother!
I wondered who got her after I threw her to the curb.
If what your husbands has done is forgivable, forgive ... and forget, forever. (Same, fellas, for your wife ...) Give him a chance to confess without lasting punishment.
I suppose this is decent advice to keeping a man happy. However, most men are happy so long as their wives don’t nag them and are physically available for intimacy. The rest is gravy. I can think of only one divorced couple in the last 20 years where the man was the instigator. Every other one of them it was the woman. She was unhappy, she never learned to love herself, she never really loved him, blah, blah, blah. Oprah told her to do it.
I never figured you for a "Crying Game" sort of guy. Check out the adam's apple and hands on the person at post #2.
I’ve never seen that movie, so I have no reference, but if you’re implying that “It’s a man, baby” did you ever think that was the reason she hit the curb? LOL
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