Posted on 01/07/2013 5:13:31 PM PST by eeevil conservative
I gave away a little girl for adoption over 22 years ago. I have tried to find her, but she found me first. Needless to say, this has been the BEST CHRISTMAS in my life ever.
Bad news- she had a daughter of 6 months old pass away in November. I never got to know about her before her passing.
The good news. I am a grandma! I have a grandson who just so happens to share the same birthday as my son! She has forgiven me. And wants to meet me.
Choosing LIFE is nothing to brag about. A child should never thank their mother for the chance of life. NEVER!
I praise God that He was with me all my life and never let me fall to fear that satan would steel my soul.
Forgive me for indulging all of you in this personal venture of my life. But I cannot help but want to share such a story of redemption, forgiveness, and new life with folks I think might enjoy some good news in this world today from a fellow FReeper.
no agency gave her info...
I wrote her letters and sent her gifts and pictures...her mom and dad shared them with her...
in 1993 it seems the “go between” agency contracted out this part of their “ministry” and hence, I thought, and they thought there was no more interest in continuing contact...I had to accept that that....that they were now interested in me no longer being involved...and they thought I no longer wanted to be involved...
sad really...
but thankfully, my daughter tried to seek me anyway...
she has pictures of her brother, I have pictures of her.
she has poems and letters I wrote her, I have letters her mom wrote to me...but we have nothing after 1993...but none of us stopped then....we are looking into where those other gifts, letters, etc went..but eventually we just assumed...
I have mixed feelings on Dr Laura’s views- but no answer is right for everyone...this is a mess created by our rebellion against God’s laws....the children are last ones that should have to pay the emotional toll for our rebellion...
I am just thankful that our story is able to overcome the terrible choices I made that put any of us in this place to begin with....mercy...thank God for mercy..
ha! thanks! my story MADE MY LIFE!
;-)
My grandmother had 2 subsequent miscarriages and was 90 years old with nobody only to discover she had a daughter, two grandsons and six great-grand Children.
My prayer for you and your mother is for Joy and patience. God bless your family. Share the good news that it is a wonderful life.
(we have no way to meet her—my daughter was born in Siberia)"
Never say never.A close friend of mine's father was shafted into the nazi army in Latvia during WW2.He disappeared and ended up in Australia leaving all his family and everyone he ever knew back in Latvia.He assumed his entire family had died in the war...and they assumed he had died in the war.50 yrs later he went to a Latvia workmen's club here in Oz and met a man here on holiday from Latvia.After talking of the old times and the old country and their families this man exclaimed that those folks were still living in the same house directly across the street from him.He actually knew them and had heard them tell of their lost son.There he was 50 yrs later on the other side of the world talking to that very same lost son!
I still shake my head at the scale of that 'coincidence' (?!?!?).
No matter how unlikely ya just never know.At the very least maybe you'll all meet in heaven.
What a wonderfull thread thankyou again for sharing ec!
how wonderful for you. if you always try to do the right thing you will always be rewarded.
how wonderful for you. if you always try to do the right thing you will always be rewarded.
Awesome! My younger sister had a child @ 18 and gave her up for adoption... She later married the father and had two more children... Two weeks before this Christmas she was contacted by the daughter they gave up and she expressed the desire to be part of the family...31 years later... She found out she had a full blood sister and brother... On the 26th of Dec they reunited... What a great Christmas gift it was for our entire family... She was raised in a very loving family and both families feel blessed to have her in their lives.. we now have an even more extended family! God blessed our family after the loss of my dad earlier in the year! It was an amazing Christmas season for us... God Bless you and your family!
I dont even know where to start...
I am riddled with guilt...I always will be. There is nothing brave or great about choosing life...It was never my life... God gave her life...my only choice was to not rebel against Him and think for a moment I could justify taking a life HE created.
I am ashamed that we live in a world where children of any age or culture would be thankful that they were not murdered in the womb...
guilt— my guilt comes from a place that most birth mothers never had to go...
I have a son who is 23...I was a single mother, and pregnant again. What a mess I made.
While pregnant with my son, I spent every waking hour thinking about how I would NOT be the typical single mother. I was on birth control when he was conceived! and was on it when she was too...
my point...I wasn’t willy nilly irresponsible, but I was irresponsible...I never should have allowed us to get into this situation...false sense of security...But I knew when I gave her away, what I was giving away..a part of me...I was not 16 and pregnant for the first time...no— I don’t get that excuse.
I was a single mother already....and now...wow..
I couldn’t be a good mother to two alone..as I said, I spent all my time promising myself that I would NOT be the typical single mother...tired, preoccupied, etc etc...
well there was no way to keep that promise to TWO, alone..and worse yet, I knew EXACTLY what I was giving away...my heart..
In her mind, I chose him over her...how does a mother defend that? how do you defend choosing one child over the other- because being a single mother wasn’t the challenge- it was being a single mother to TWO!
I am riddled with guilt— but the amazing thing- she - YES SHE- the little angel I gave away, told ME- that she would have gone through the same thought process and made the same decision...
I did NOT bring it up- SHE did, and when she did, she told ME what I was thinking and why I did it, and that she understood, it was what SHE would have done...
All I could do is cry and say I was sorry...
You are a very forgiving and very graceful being....
I am so thankful that you would share so much of yourself with me, with all of us....I will pray for your brother and am so full of pain and sorrow for him....
As a birth mother, all I can say is that I am so sorry, that you or your brother would ever be put in a situation where you would be thankful for your life, it is God and only God that gave you life.....thank God and only God that we never took it away...the horror is that we can only pray that the people that raised you, loved you....but a child’s future should never be placed at a dice table in Vegas...only we are to blame for that...
ok— to some that may sound harsh on us birth moms...but i have never backed down from facing truth in the midst of BS when it comes to the asshats in DC.... I have no right to rosy up truth on this issue to make myself look or feel better...
I probably should hit the backspace key and send this in private message- but I not into being a coward either....
all I can do is ask to be forgiven....
tears here too! ty
Bless you and yours.
perfectly said, and thank you...
Praise GOd!!
ty for sharing this!!!!!!
you and them are forever in my prayers...Bless you!!
Bless you for giving those children forever homes, forever love, and forever parents!!
oh I cannot imagine the hurt you went through.....but yes— God is good and is working when we have no clue...
I was called mom by my kids— I was able to have kids, and it was a given...
but— I can only imagine what it is like for you to have your Russian Princess call you mommy..
My daughter gave me her phone number in her letter...I called it...I said “this is Sherri” I heard a voice crack and cry out- “MOMMY!”.. it was the best “MOMMY” I had ever heard...so I can relate, at least in a small way, the joy she brings you....
You ARE her MOMMY!
Bless you so much for being MOMMY! for her! God bless you BOTH!
WOW! Praise God! and thank you for sharing such a unique story that just spread joy and hope!
JUST WOW!
"...I always will be"
I'm sure you've read these verses before but I can't and won't dare to try and think of anything to say to all that.
1 Corinthians 6:11 "And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God."
Philippians 3:13 "...forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before"
It was spooky the way she found her dad. He placed a new marker on his mom’ grave. She visits her grave from time to time and then noticed the new marker. She flipped out, called her brother to tell him. She found his email address through the cemetery office and emailed him. The rest is history. Forty something years. Amazing. I guess his mom was watching over things.
WOW! Great story! I hope that story brings hope to anyone who needs it....what an awesome blessing for you to share it here with us!
WOW
oh mugs!!!
tears and more tears! amazing how God works! AMAZING!!!
What a gift that you would share this with us!
I am amazed at how many Freeper are sharing their stories about this topic! I had no idea there were so many of us out there, touched by the story of LIFE!
We really need to stop allowing this to be a private and taboo topic!!! What hope we have on this thread for young women facing choices to know that joy and grace of LIFE!
you are all giving me a real resolve to be louder than I have ever been before...
thank you all!!!
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