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Posted on 04/12/2010 2:04:43 PM PDT by jerry557
Psychologist John Buss estimates that for most of human history, perhaps 2% of women have been lesbian or bisexual (see note 1, below). Not any more. Recent surveys of teenage girls and young women find that roughly 15% of young females today self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, compared with about 5% of young males who identify as gay or bisexual (see note 2, below).
As a physician and a psychologist, what I found missing in the noise surrounding the Constance McMillen story was any serious discussion of why a growing number of girls self-identify as lesbian or bisexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that, as Seinfeld might say. But why are young women today at least three times more likely than their brothers to identify as bisexual or homosexual? "I kissed a girl and I liked it," Katy Perry told us in her #1 hit single. Megan Fox, Lindsay Lohan, Lady Gaga, Anna Paquin, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore - they all want us to know that they are bisexual. There is no comparable crowd of young male celebrities rushing to assure us that they go both ways. Imagine a young man singing "I kissed a boy and I liked it." Would that song reach #1 on the charts? Why not?
Why is it OK for girls to be bisexual or homosexual, but not boys?
Over the past seven years, I've posed this question to hundreds of teenagers and young adults across the United States. The most common answer I get isn't really an answer. "Girls kiss other girls at parties because guys like it," one teenage girl told me. "It makes the guys hoot and holler, so the girls do it again. They're just doing it for attention. It's not for real."
Female sexuality is different from male sexuality. If a straight boy kissed another boy, perhaps to amuse some girls who might be watching, he would be unlikely to undergo a change in sexual orientation as a result. But, as Professor Roy Baumeister at Florida State University and others have shown, sexual attraction in many women seems to be more malleable (see note 3 below). If a teenage girl kisses another teenage girl, for whatever reason, and she finds that she likes it - then things can happen, and things can change. If a young woman finds her soulmate, and her soulmate happens to be female, then she may begin to experience feelings she's never felt before.
Which brings me to the second point I've encountered in my interviews with young people. Twenty years ago, when I opened my practice in a suburb of Washington DC, it was rare to find 14-year-old boys who were looking at pornography every day. Today it's common, in fact it's becoming the norm. When I meet with a group of 14-year-old boys and I ask them, "how many of you guys subscribe to a porn site?", all hands go up. I don't believe them. But today, no boy wants to admit that he's the weirdo who doesn't look at online porn. Twenty years ago, hardcore pornography was tucked away in adult bookstores. Today any 14-year-old can access such photos online in seconds. Role models for young men, from pop singer John Mayer to the 2009 World Series MVP Hideki Matsui, talk openly about their collections of porn (see note 4, below).
Is there any connection between these two trends - between the rise in the number of young women who self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, and the increasing normalization and acceptance of pornography in the lives of young men? Maybe there is. A young woman told me how her boyfriend several years ago suggested that she shave her pubic hair, so that she might more closely resemble the porn stars who were this young man's most consistent source of sexual arousal. She now identifies herself as bisexual. "It was just such a welcome change, to snuggle under a blanket on the couch with my girlfriend, watch a movie, and talk about God and death and growing old, to be intimate emotionally and spiritually as well as physically. I don't know a guy who could even comprehend the conversations we have."
I wish Constance McMillen and her girlfriend all the best. But I have to wonder: Are there so many girl-girl couples out there because that's truly who they are - or because the guys are such losers?
Someone just got themselves grounded. You= Fail.
I can remember being in high school myself, and thinking sex was really a new thing, more or less discovered by teenagers. I think everybody goes through that delusion, lol. Males do, at least.
The difference is, we grew out of it.
-D (the dad)
I’d heard the saying, years ago, that sex proves God has a sense of humor. I have to admit, it’s easier to see with the benefit of a little hindsight.
I remember it well, when everything seemed bright, shiney and new, and I thought I was invinceable. Some things never change.
Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: (Rom 1:24)
Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. (Rom 1:25)
For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: (Rom 1:26)
“whether all you bible-toting conservatives can bend your beliefs to accept it or not, thats simply how it works now, so get used to it.”
LOL
We bible toting conservatives have been around for thousands of years. Sex isn’t exactly a new thing, you know. Here’s something you should know about sex. It may feel good for a few minutes but it can also ruin the rest of your life, your family and entire societies.
When a woman tempts a man into sexual immorality, the consequences might be fornication or adultery lacking the man loving the woman, but when men tempt women into sexual immorality, frequently the consequence involves woman having more attraction and obedience to any body other than the right man.
And then they endlessly proselytize their vision, aided and abetted by "elite" academe, the foundations, and the MSM, making it effectively mandatory on the rest of us. So get on board — or else the ACLU, the HRC, etc. ad nauseam, are gonna get you, and make you pay!
Well put, imho.
I think it tends to be true, too.
INDEED.
GREAT POINTS.
THX.
However,
Boys and men do seek solace from one another.
They would virtually NEVER call it that.
And it comes under guise of various activities and labels.
Yet their emotional bonding—when they are brave enough in today’s world—can be incredibly strong and not at all sexual.
Thanks for your kind words.
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Please, girls experimenting is nothing new, most of these “self identified” lesbians will be married with kids soon enough, the only thing that has changed is that instead of this quietly happening in college, its flagrantly happening in high school.
This isn’t something new.
“In the senior year, with the propaganda, many seniors are overwhelmed by still being virgins.”
Worked on an oil rig after my freshman and soph. years in college. I was on a new crew my soph. year and most of the guys were real jerks - espec. the boss.
Being the college kid I got razzed a lot and that was okay. The boss made some comment about “..and you’re probably a virgin too..” I replied “Why yes I am. I’m one of those old-fashioned Christians that thinks that should be saved for marriage. And I don’t need to stick my dick in every gal just to prove I’m a man.” Well, they all had a good laugh about that at my expense!
But, over the course of the next two days when one of the other workers would catch me alone, they would apologize, and give me a thumbs up for sticking up for myself and my beliefs. With several saying “I’m a virgin too”.
(Didn’t quite make it to marriage though...)
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Interesting article and interesting comments. No need for me to say anything but here's my .02.
Culture influences people. E-Z access pornography affects people. Increasingly depraved pornography affects people. Homosexual propaganda, as well as the increasing sexualization of children affects people.
And then the more people are affected, the cultural spiral downward quickens. It's actually very, very saddening. People who are sexualized at a young age to the point of engaging in promiscuity and especially same sex acts often never wake up to a normal life where they can commit to a lifelong spouse and have normal family life.
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