Posted on 01/03/2010 5:57:16 AM PST by freedomyes
I visited a friend’s home for an evening. I wanted to check my email. I asked the 12-year-old daughter if I could check my email via her bedroom computer. She hesitated. I wondered immediately at her hesitation.
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The 12 year old has already “been seduced”???? I think that’s called rape.
What is a 12 year old doing with a computer in her room? Especially one that has already demonstrated that she can be seduced by paedophiles who are full of it...
Agree.. any child on a computer should be doing so in front of the parents. Granted you can’t watch kids all the time but setting a computer up in the family room would make more sense.
Why would a grown man ask a 12 yo to use her computer "to check his email"? Why not ask an adult or does the author have some specific desire to pry into the child's stuff?
buncha hooey
my grandchildren use a computer in the family room and the screen points out toward the room and the kitchen.
But this kid aside, I hate it, hate it when people come into my home and want to use my computer to check their email. I hate it,,it feels intrusive, they can open email with viruses and my personal records are not password protected on my puter so they can peruse my business.
I have nothing to hide but wouldn’t want anyone having access to my computer.
Am I a weirdo? Using another’s computer seems akin to asking to take a nap in their bed or to use their makeup.
Can’t this woman go anywhere without “checking” her email? Get a damned smart phone or blackberry is what I say.
You are not a weirdo. If someone came into my home and wanted to use my computer to check their email, I’d warn them that I’ll be standing right behind them while they do it. If they complain that “this is private”, I’d tell them that everything on MY computer is private too and I plan to keep it that way.
I agree that people shouldn’t even ask to use someone’s personal PC. We installed a wireless network in our house, and I have one laptop that does nothing but provide an access point for ‘outsiders’ who may drop by...family, friends, etc. It has minimal software, and I run AV, anti-everything, with everything scanned all the time. It’s not too fast, but it seems sound. I’ve never had an issue with this setup. Cheap laptop on eBay can be had for less than $200 with wireless capability. I figure...the crappier it is, the less likely folks will be to ask for its use. But, if they think I need to see their latest youtube post or some such silliness, we’ll use that sacrificial machine...not my personal system.
yup...folks who do that are kin to the “church lady”....
K9 Web Protection - Free Internet Filtering and Parental Controls
Works great. Blocks by category but you can add/remove individual web sites manually.
Also plays a dog bark sound when they attempt to access a site that's blocked. That's helpful.
When you install it you set an administrator password where you're the only one that can disable it or add sites. (however, if your kid's tech savvy they may know how to stop services in Windows)
Once in a blue moon the software will act up and block all Internet connections. If that happens you can just stop/start the K9 service or just reboot the PC.
Just beware, Blackberry Phones and smart phones now have WiFi capability.
If you have a wireless network in your home that is not secured people with these phones could access your computer using their phone. Basically these phones are the same thing as a WiFi enabled laptop.
One option if you wish to leave your network open is to have your computer shut down when you have visitors.
Although the author of this article makes valid points and good suggestions as to how a parent can control child intenet usage, I agree with some of the other commentators in the forum that the article itself seems contrived. First of all, it seems rather desperate for a grown man, friend of family notwithstanding, to ask a 12 year old if he could use the computer. Couldn’t he wait till he got home? If it was an important email for business, well, don’t those type of jobs always have employees who are glued to their cell phone internet? Evidently, the writer needed to personalize his suggestions and made something up. However, aside from this contrivance, a child should not have a computer. I had the family computer in my bedroom, and when the kids were young, I was in my room while they were surfing the web. I also made full use of AOL parental controls at the time, that prevented them from going on questionable sites. In addition, if the 12 year old in question had already been seduced ( strange word to use) by an older man, then I would be vigilant to prevent anything similar from happening again. Odd story all around.
I have to wonder immediately at J. Grant Swank, Jr.'s insistence on wanting to use a 12 year old girl's computer instead of asking her parents if he can use theirs. If he was doing this just for the purpose of writing this story, he should have made up a story about doing this to his own daughter. By the time my own daughter is 12, I hope she is wise enough to not "completely" trust male friends of the family or any of her uncles with things that only her parents need to be aware of. I realize that J. Grant Swank, Jr. is a writer and has to write or he won't make a living, but in this story he comes across as a CREEP.
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you are quick to judge, are you not?
your quickness is rash.
no further need to give commodious explanations as to the author’s moral integrity.
suffice it to say that the author and this family have known one another for thirty years, therefore, it would be not out of place for the author to make such a request of friends who are actually extended family over years.
please, don’t be so quick to make a cold judgment as you have done. it is not logical and it is not kind.
you are quick to judge, are you not?
your quickness is rash.
no further need to give commodious explanations as to the author’s moral integrity.
suffice it to say that the author and this family have known one another for thirty years, therefore, it would be not out of place for the author to make such a request of friends who are actually extended family over years.
please, don’t be so quick to make a cold judgment as you have done. it is not logical and it is not kind.
the article is not ‘contrived.’
you are quick to judge, are you not?
your quickness is rash.
no further need to give commodious explanations as to the author’s moral integrity.
suffice it to say that the author and this family have known one another for thirty years, therefore, it would be not out of place for the author to make such a request of friends who are actually extended family over years.
please, don’t be so quick to make a cold judgment as you have done. it is not logical and it is not kind.
ok. we get your message. you ‘hate it.’
kindly informing your friends your opinion should do it.
those who are mannerly friends will know your position and abide by it.
you state:
“Can’t this woman go anywhere without ‘checking’ her email? Get a damned smart phone or blackberry is what I say.”
the author is a thirty-year friend of the family and therefore the family did not think it rude for such a simple request to be made of them.
other situations may unfold differently in other households, etc.
I agree cajungirl, it’s invasive.
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