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How Do You Respond to Offensive Language at the Office? (Transphobic?)
DiversityInc ^ | 16 Dec | Luke Visconti

Posted on 12/18/2008 12:41:15 PM PST by flowerplough

Question:

I recently was in a situation at work where a coworker made transphobic statements about a customer (out of earshot, thank God). He said things like, "That person isn't really a woman," and went on to mention how proud he was of himself for being able to "tell." What are the best ways to react to such comments? I'm a queer white woman who's out, and I wanted to engage my coworker in conversation as a peer so that our work relationship can continue to be positive, and so that we can have the kind of dialogue that eventually leads to greater understanding. At the same time, I also wanted to make it clear that what he said was unacceptable and that I won't stand for it.

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Most people aren't bigots, sexists or homophobes--and if handled with generosity, will respond to kindly offered dialogue. A fellow Navy pilot who took the time to explain his experience as an African American as he helped me be our office's "minority officer recruiter" changed the trajectory of my life in the 1980s.

This doesn't mean that you're always going to have a "kumbaya" moment. My experience with the responses to this publication is that many people stubbornly hold onto their discriminatory views and take criticism as a personal attack, even when it's counterproductive. Take your incident, for example. Only a creep would make a comment like that--especially considering he was in a work environment with an out lesbian in his company.

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Transphobic?
1 posted on 12/18/2008 12:41:16 PM PST by flowerplough
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To: flowerplough

How do i respond?

You really don’t want to know. And Jim wouldn’t let me say it anyway.


2 posted on 12/18/2008 12:43:43 PM PST by dblshot
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To: flowerplough

I will accept your gender role standards to the extent that you accept my right wing Christian standards.


3 posted on 12/18/2008 12:44:39 PM PST by Natural Law
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To: flowerplough

Sounds like a fear of trans-fatty acid!


4 posted on 12/18/2008 12:44:39 PM PST by Sister_T (The Obama Administration = Clinton's Third Term)
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To: flowerplough

It’s a perfectly cromulent word.


5 posted on 12/18/2008 12:46:13 PM PST by SJSAMPLE
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To: flowerplough

On the farm they’re called “freemartins” and are neither bull nor cow. They lock ‘em away in their own pasture and corral so as not to spook the bulls and cows who react very strongly to sharing any quarter with such a beast.

Just had to say.


6 posted on 12/18/2008 12:46:14 PM PST by mdk1960
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To: flowerplough
I'm a queer white woman

Queer?

When did that change, I thought that was not allowed?

How are people supposed to know what not to say when the rules keep changing?

7 posted on 12/18/2008 12:46:24 PM PST by Michael.SF. ("They're not Americans. They're liberals! "-- Ann Coulter, May 15, 2008)
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To: flowerplough
I would hate to be that "queer's" mechanic.

One day she might show up at the shop to pick up her car and hear me saying "That tranny needs a complete rework!"

8 posted on 12/18/2008 12:48:09 PM PST by who_would_fardels_bear (The cosmos is about the smallest hole a man can stick his head in. - Chesterton)
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To: flowerplough
From Wiki: “Transphobic Modulator” A special kind of modulator required in transporters to materialize and dematerialize trans-gendered humans. Regular transporters don't work on trans genders. Too many rematerialized with their sex changes reversed.
9 posted on 12/18/2008 12:48:09 PM PST by LiberConservative (That temperatures are actually falling now illustrates how fast the world is warming.)
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To: flowerplough

I’d tell the fag/dyke to quit being such an effing whining sissy beotch.

The owner of the company I now work for asked me in my first phone interview if i was a n*gger. I never laughed so much in my life. OK, I have, but i laughed anyway. He’s a great guy, just a little old school, and harbors not one bit of bigoted attitude despitee his comments. He’s almost 80, and still sharp as a tack, when he’s awake.


10 posted on 12/18/2008 12:48:40 PM PST by Travis T. OJustice (Change is not a destination, just as hope is not a strategy.)
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To: flowerplough
I'm a queer white woman who's out

If you're OK with the word "queer," then why would you take offense at any other word?

Or is it like where only blacks can use the "N"-word?

11 posted on 12/18/2008 12:48:41 PM PST by E. Pluribus Unum (Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors are the opium of the people.)
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To: flowerplough
Sometimes they're not too hard to spot....
12 posted on 12/18/2008 12:49:43 PM PST by Troll_House_Cookies (Ironically, Chancellor Obama's first re-education camp will be in Alaska.)
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To: mdk1960

I call those hamburger, not freemartins.


13 posted on 12/18/2008 12:49:59 PM PST by Travis T. OJustice (Change is not a destination, just as hope is not a strategy.)
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To: flowerplough

Why even post this crap here on FR? It defiles our site.


14 posted on 12/18/2008 12:50:07 PM PST by east1234 (It's the borders stupid! My new enviromentalist inspired tagline: cut, kill, dig and drill)
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To: flowerplough

Diversity Inc. is prohomosexual while speculative about religious tolerance.

Homosexuals are permitted to share all facets of their lives with coworkers without prompting or rejection of such details but religious people should respect the rights of others and not preach their faith to coworkers.


15 posted on 12/18/2008 12:50:16 PM PST by weegee ("Let Me Just Cut You Off, Because I Don't Want You To Waste Your Question" - B.Obama Dec 16, 2008)
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To: Michael.SF.

My name is now Sleep and Eat and I have Ethnic Identity Disorder. I will come to work in Black Face and demand to use the Colored Only Rest Room. My African-American coworkers will accept me as one of their own or have to undergo Diversity Training.


16 posted on 12/18/2008 12:50:52 PM PST by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: flowerplough

How to Handle Religion at Work Without Offending Anyone
By Daryl C. Hannah

http://www.diversityinc.com/public/4845.cfm

If you live in a major metropolitan area such as New York City, it’s not uncommon to see the occasional crucifix, Kuffi or yarmulke being worn by professionals on their way to work. But what happens when these displays of religious expression interfere with everyday duties, such as working with atheist colleagues or clients? And more importantly, how do you get over that religious interference?

“I am not a fan of having deep religion in the workplace,” Melinda Wolfe, former senior vice president, executive talent, and chief diversity officer for American Express, said during DiversityInc’s Religion in the Workplace roundtable last year. “I don’t think it belongs there...”


17 posted on 12/18/2008 12:51:56 PM PST by weegee ("Let Me Just Cut You Off, Because I Don't Want You To Waste Your Question" - B.Obama Dec 16, 2008)
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To: flowerplough

“I wanted to engage my coworker in conversation as a peer so that our work relationship can continue to be positive, and so that we can have the kind of dialogue that eventually leads to greater understanding”

Leave me alone. Freak.


18 posted on 12/18/2008 12:52:04 PM PST by tumblindice
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To: weegee

Excellent point Wee Gee. If I shared specific sexual details with the Receptionist, I’d get fired for Sexual Harrassment.


19 posted on 12/18/2008 12:52:53 PM PST by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: east1234

It shows you why American corporations went down the tubes. Socialists subverted them from within.


20 posted on 12/18/2008 12:53:55 PM PST by weegee ("Let Me Just Cut You Off, Because I Don't Want You To Waste Your Question" - B.Obama Dec 16, 2008)
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