Posted on 02/16/2006 10:01:20 AM PST by klossg
One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something
DEAR SUSAN: I am 45 and soon to be divorced. I raised three children, who are now grown and married. My husband and I grew apart in the last years of the marriage, and I've been celibate for two years. Lately, though, I've been feeling very alive and sensual.
Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason. How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?
- Desperate to Feel Like a Woman. Long Island, N.Y.
DEAR DESPERATE: You don't. Take a cue from this wonderful man and his second thoughts and stop and think this through. This is a delicate phase you're going through, a mixture of all sorts of feelings and moods, a time for clear thinking. Your idea of going from man to man, asking for sex, shows me anything but. The next time you're feeling supersensual, let a cold shower remind you that a period of celibacy can be extremely creative and fulfilling, and that channeling your libido into self-expression can make you feel more of a woman than any amount of loveless sex. Give it a try. The offer comes with no strings.
Write to Susan Deitz c/o DivorceInteractive.com, 94 Second Street, Mineola, N.Y. 11501. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope.
You love hand grenades, dontcha.
Note to Susan:
Celibate means unmarried. Chaste means not having sex.
"""Some guy passed on a freebie? This lady must be hideous."""
This may sound bad but in reality it is not very hard for a woman to find a "no strings attached" romp. All she has to do is go to the bar and talk to the first guy there or go outside and flag down the first car she sees.
You say, "Hey Laz! What are you doing tonight?"
exactly.
And 80% of the time she will score on the first try.
Laz, what's your take?
2 entries found for Celibate.
cel·i·bate ( P ) Pronunciation Key (sl-bt)
n.
One who abstains from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.
One who is unmarried.
adj.
Abstaining from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.
Unmarried; unwed.
It's hard for some who haven't developed the skills to manage on their own.
As for sex,
well, there are ways around the problem.
'nuf said.
understood.
Shall I proceed to the nearest fox hole?
There are many ways to feel like a woman that dont involve men (or women, vegetables or appliances, for that matter!)
At 45, you may still have a monthly visitor. Revel in that fact. Nothing says woman like bloating, backache and menstrual cramps.
With your kids and husband out of the picture, your house is probably clean and your laundry is probably done. No wonder youre out of sorts! Whats more womanly than household chores? Why dont you volunteer to help out someone else who is overwhelmed by hers. (Ill FReepmail you my address.)
Plan some girlie activities for your life. Get your nails done, see a chick flick, go to JoAnns Fabrics with the 40% off coupon. Go see Menopause the Musical with your gal pals. You will either have your female needs met, or realize that the girlie stuff isnt really all that fulfilling. In either case, problem solved.
Get a job for which you are vastly overqualified. Request a pay rate lower than any male counterpart.
Forget the cold shower channel your sexual energy into home improvement. Its great exercise and will increase your net worth and your home will look fabulous! If your home is already in perfect shape, volunteer to help someone else with home repairs. (Ill FReepmail you my address.)
Go to church and connect with the One who made you. He knows how to make you truly fulfilled, regardless of your circumstances. Besides, there are lots of good, strong men who would make good husbands in the church. Just stay away from the ones who already are good husbands!
last line priceless!
hmmm, read your post. I just want to say to all Freepin' women everywhere that I do not know Chanticleer nor do I prescribe to anything in that post.
(quietly ducking out of the way)
Trublu
She just needs a BOB.
lol, not even the last part?
Ok, I thought it was funny(the whole thing) but ssshhh, don't tell anyone.
rabbit?
LAZ....
I've got a surprise for you!!!!
It was priceless - that and giving out an email in case she wants to come help Chanticleer clean her own mess.
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