Posted on 02/16/2006 10:01:20 AM PST by klossg
One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something
DEAR SUSAN: I am 45 and soon to be divorced. I raised three children, who are now grown and married. My husband and I grew apart in the last years of the marriage, and I've been celibate for two years. Lately, though, I've been feeling very alive and sensual.
Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason. How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?
- Desperate to Feel Like a Woman. Long Island, N.Y.
DEAR DESPERATE: You don't. Take a cue from this wonderful man and his second thoughts and stop and think this through. This is a delicate phase you're going through, a mixture of all sorts of feelings and moods, a time for clear thinking. Your idea of going from man to man, asking for sex, shows me anything but. The next time you're feeling supersensual, let a cold shower remind you that a period of celibacy can be extremely creative and fulfilling, and that channeling your libido into self-expression can make you feel more of a woman than any amount of loveless sex. Give it a try. The offer comes with no strings.
Write to Susan Deitz c/o DivorceInteractive.com, 94 Second Street, Mineola, N.Y. 11501. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope.
Amazing!!! Is this a revolution? Are people becoming more aware of the problem of putting all your "eggs" in sex only for physical pleasure?
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Take a cold shower PING.
Dear Desperate,
Don't be a whore. Attend a church. Lots of good strong men there that would love to treat you like a lady.
Trubluolyguy
"Get thee to a nunnery!!"
"How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?"
Offer him cash money?
Take a cold shower PING.
Celibacy can be a "hands on" job but I think it's great advice.
OK I don't like this Susan Deitz chick.
Can't even GIVE it away, Huh?
Well I wouldn't go that far, no men there and that seems to be her particular need. Why grab a guy for a "no-strings" romp when there are perfectly good gentlemen that will treat her right. All she has to do is look in the right places.
i like your observation.
Not to worry my dear....limit your field to Army Pilots....We do our best work "above the best"
. """"Lots of good strong men there that would love to treat you like a lady. """"""
That is the problem. She doesn't WANT to be treated like a lady at this particular time.
I thank you, and my tractor thanks you.
I'm sitting on a fence here...not too sure about the woman asking the man, but then again, she is an adult.
And I know all about feeling alive again, so I'm sympathic to the need.
:`)
You are right, she can find a good guy to treat her right if she looks in the right places.
Right now she doesn't want that (or maybe her she really does and it has manifested itself into lust). Right now she wants hot monkey love.
And just think, it's hard to be rejected...at any age much less middle age.
A lot of babyboomers are finding themselves single in middle age.
Her situation is not unusual.
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