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Question for my Fellow Freepers...
March 23, 2005 | Hildy

Posted on 03/23/2005 5:09:24 PM PST by Hildy

You are in your 20's, and you're visiting somebody in the hospital. You pass by a room where somebody is all contorted up, in a vegitative state. Would you say to your husband:

a)Honey, Don't ever let me live in that condition.

b )Honey, If I ever get like that, please make sure you do everything in your power, whatever the cost to you and our family, financially and emotionally, to keep me in that vegitative state no matter how long it takes. I want you to come and sit by my side every day and go home alone every night. I want to have strangers tend to my most personal needs. If I don't respond in four or five years, make sure I'm kept alive by a feeding tube in my stomach. And, most importantly, if you're not sure if I know what's going on around me, please err on the side of caution and keep me in that bed, indefinitely.

Remember, you're 24 years old. Which one would you pick?


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To: Hildy
I had a brother who died last year of cancer Hildy. He was as outdoors and fun loving an indivbidual as you would ever meet. He vowed several times he wouldn't want to live "like that". But in his late forties with the options reduced to not either live like that or live healthy, but instead, either live like that or die...he made a choice to fight for his life as long as he could. He had a different perspective at that point as I am sure Terri would have now at 41.

I do not believe Terri contemplated this situation. It was more likely, when uttered, based on someone on full life support, not just on feeding. She loves her family (her parents and siblings) and always has. I believe she would want to live for them if she could.

I would say, and already have in my own living will, that if my death is imminent, and can only be temporarily prolonged by articial respiration or heart lung, then not to do so...but I have specifically indicated to keep the hydration and feeding going as long as possible.

41 posted on 03/23/2005 5:18:42 PM PST by Jeff Head (www.dragonsfuryseries.com)
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To: Jim Robinson

AWESOME bumper sticker bump! Love it!


42 posted on 03/23/2005 5:18:53 PM PST by Miss Behave (Man who fart in church sit in own pew.)
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To: Hildy
It's relevant because there's the idea that this isn't what she wanted. I'm saying this is probably what she would have wanted.

Probably doesn't cut it when you kill somebody in cold blood.

43 posted on 03/23/2005 5:18:58 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: Hildy
Let me re-phrase your one sided question...

a)Honey, feel free to kill me.

b)Honey, please help me recover.

--Boot Hill

44 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:01 PM PST by Boot Hill ("...and Josuha went unto him and said: art thou for us, or for our adversaries?")
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To: Nachum

YOu didn't answer the queation. The whole issue is what Terri would have wanted. So I'm saying put yourself in the shoes of a 24 year old woman.


45 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:09 PM PST by Hildy
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To: alisasny

I'm sorry about your mom. Sadly, you did what a lot of people have had to do. It's what a court of appeals noted that Michael could have done. But he didn't. The Court noted that Michael could have just had the feeding tube removed. But instead he asked the Court to make the decision. And they did.

He tried three years of intensive therapy. The nurses and doctors testified under oath he was meticulous in his care of her; she never had a bedsore because of his care and he was demanding of nursing staff.


46 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:16 PM PST by Peach (The Clintons pardoned more terrorists than they ever captured or killed.)
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To: jwalsh07
It's a stupid question. When I was that age I told my friends to shoot me if I ever got over 50. Well today I'm over 50 and if they start shooting, I'm shooting back.

LOL

47 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:22 PM PST by Samwise (Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.)
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To: Hildy

I feel sorry for you, Hildy....You must have had to pull someone's plug and you are trying to assuage the guilt that you feel. Don't bother answering me, I don't want to know.


48 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:29 PM PST by Ann Archy (Abortion: The Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: infidel29

It's a direct question. it's just hard for you to come to grips with the truth.


49 posted on 03/23/2005 5:19:38 PM PST by Hildy
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To: Hildy

BTW is Michael at the bedside of the woman he claims he loves tonight?

If this is so important to him you think he would be there to support his wife at the end of her life.


50 posted on 03/23/2005 5:20:02 PM PST by alisasny (We get 4 more years, you get OBAMA...: ))
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To: mhx

I didn't ask what was "right" I asked what you would say.


51 posted on 03/23/2005 5:20:09 PM PST by Hildy
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To: A CA Guy

Like my mom. She's 'toatally in her head' as you put it, she just can't make her body do anything. She wishes she had died. I wish, for her sake, she had too. Her life was over 8 years ago. Nothing but tears and anger since.


52 posted on 03/23/2005 5:20:37 PM PST by Trust but Verify (Pull up a chair and watch history being made.)
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To: Hildy

Depends on what the defenition of the word "VEGETATIVE" means. From my understanding, vegetables don't open their eyes when asked by doctors.


53 posted on 03/23/2005 5:20:50 PM PST by Scarlet7
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To: Hildy

Couldn't have happened, I was in the service when I was 24, so I was going to die anyway.


54 posted on 03/23/2005 5:20:58 PM PST by xone
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To: Hildy
Actually doctors, the parents, many nurses have said she wasn't was responsive and that doctors have treated far worse with good results.

This was all Judicial activism for their piece of an abortion on demand type of legacy for themselves to please their liberal friends with.
55 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:06 PM PST by A CA Guy (God Bless America, God bless and keep safe our fighting men and women.)
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To: alisasny

what if there was very little brain activity and the Dr.'s said she PROBABLY didn't know what was going on and there was no chance of recovery.


56 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:11 PM PST by Hildy
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To: Hildy

How about .. honey don't ever sue someone claiming that I will need years of therapy and then instead of providing that therapy to me I want you to use the money to fight in the courts for the right to kill me instead of putting a serious effort into rehabilitation prior to make the life/death decision...


57 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:20 PM PST by BlueNgold (Feed the Tree .....)
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To: Hildy
Which one would you pick?

Neither.

58 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:51 PM PST by RightWhale (Please correct if cosmic balance requires.)
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To: Excellence

If it could be proven she is, or in some similar state that is irreversable, would you change your mund about this case?


59 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:53 PM PST by Trust but Verify (Pull up a chair and watch history being made.)
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To: Hildy

Hildy, I understand your frustration, but your "B" answer is basically, "When did you stop beating your dog?"


60 posted on 03/23/2005 5:21:56 PM PST by mhking (If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a ball!)
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