Posted on 06/12/2023 3:57:46 PM PDT by nickcarraway
First dates are awkward, to say the least. Especially when the bill arrives, and you're wondering who should pay? The guy or the girl?
Well, Singapore-based influencer Midi has her own point of view on this delicate matter.
On June 6, in a 42-second TikTok video, Midi answered the million-dollar question.
"The question is super simple," Midi said, before mentioning how dating is like a long-term investment.
Her train of thought is that if you like the guy, let him cover the bill.
That way, you have the perfect excuse to meet him again. "Thank you so much for paying, next round [is] on me," Midi illustrated.
She also added that this will make the guy look like a gentleman while knowing that the girl is appreciative and knows "how to return the favour".
But what if you're not vibing with your date?
Midi suggested splitting the bill.
Because if the guy ends up paying and there's no second date, he might think you're being "materialistic".
So to avoid all the misunderstanding, Midi encouraged to "split the bill with him".
However, netizens had their own opinions on the topic as the comments section of her video was filled with polarising reactions.
One group concurred with her opinion, mentioning that her advice was sound.
On the other hand, some others felt bad expecting the guy to pay even if they were interested.
One user asked whether the chance of a second date is over if the girl suggests splitting the bill.
Midi clarified that being interested and splitting the bill are not mutually exclusive.
There were also netizens who mentioned how guys should always pay.
How now, brown cow?
As you can see, there is no right answer to this age-old question.
Take Indonesian-Chinese TikTok user Cassie for instance. On March 24, she shared her observations on dating Singaporean and Indonesian men.
In the video, she highlighted how Indonesians are "more providing" as the practice of splitting bills on a date is "not the way to go" in Indonesia.
"Whereas here [in Singapore], it is quite normal," she stated.
Having said that, she did point out that it's not the rule of thumb that all Singaporean guys opt to split the bill.
She admitted that she's been on dates with local men who have paid for everything.
As the saying goes, to each their own.
The “influencer” pays. Ya got all that influence, pick up the check. And you better influence the waiter to give us a good table.
Any guy who doesn’t pay for the first date should just cut off his balls now and stop pretending to be a man
Real men pay on every date. But. Hell I’m over 70 and even I know that. Oh, and real men date real women.
Its been awhile since you have dated. Women today go on foodie calls, where they use men for free meals.
I’m well beyond any of these concerns, but my view is that, as the guy, I pay the bill. If you have other ideas, then the second date isn’t happening. I want traditional roles. This is one way to see how she feels about traditional roles.
The one who asks the other out on the date is the one who pays.
Whoever invites pays…
This isn’t complicated.
Bunch of silliness
Considering how horrible most young women are nowadays, who the hell wants to date them let alone pay the tab?
Generally a “date” is an invitation, you are the host.
You invite someone, so you are one on the hook for the costs
no strings attached.
I don’t invite my neighbors over for barbecue and then ask for money for the meat and charcoal.
If it is BYOB say that up front.
Aside from wanting to find a slut, most dates are to get to know someone you find attractive.
The man pays. If he doesn’t then he is a gender denier.
Geez. Why do young people think they are such geniuses figuring out simple things?
Unless I was dating, the person doing the asking out paid. I’ve been asked out many times by women and they paid.
True, I still buy my wife’s dinner and we’ve been married for 50+ years. All the years we’ve been married, I’d complain about work. She always said “well it’s a living” and smile. Interesting how things change. Crap, talk about old and out of fashion. I still change her flat tires. Sheeesh! 😎
No pay no lay.
But nowadays with all the psychos she pays to prove she can support a real man and his lifestyle. Otherwise go back to Chad and all the other Users -and don’t call me again.
“Influencer Midi’s Hot”
Can’t tell without a photo.
I would bet that your wife has always acted like a lady. Today its a whole new world out there, with women sleeping around, tattoos, drinking, drugs, and language where every sentence contains a swear word.
> The one who asks the other out on the date is the one who pays.
Bingo!
Isn't it unfortunate that this is even in question?
I never dated, I just wanted to party some and have sex.
The inviter pays.
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