Posted on 10/27/2022 1:20:01 PM PDT by nickcarraway
first started using dating apps in 2016, when I found myself newly separated. Having been in a relationship with my now ex-husband for almost 10 years, I found dating had completely transformed in the decade I'd been out of the game. It was now all about "the apps": Tinder and Bumble were now the place to go to get a date.
I know I'm not the only millennial who has emerged into this new landscape after a long-term relationship and could have really done with a map to navigate it—or at least a friendly guide. Instead, I embarked on three years of dating that I suppose you could call my "trial and error" era—in that I made loads of errors and it felt incredibly trying.
After a few failed "situationships," dozens of dates and God knows how many message exchanges, I felt I was beginning to crack a code. I noticed patterns; what men said would often play out in how they behaved.
I was also, frankly, pretty disheartened by the sheer volume of disrespectful, objectifying and misogynistic bios I came across every time I ventured onto an app. I could see through the men looking for "discreet fun"—that means sex that you'll keep secret from their wives—and sometimes it all felt so transparent that it was almost funny.
I realized I could translate stock phrases that are repeated from profile to profile—"looking for a partner in crime"; "not looking for a penpal"; "6'2, because apparently that matters"—from what they said to what they actually meant.
So, when I first set up my Instagram account @tindertranslators in 2019 it was primarily to give myself some comedic catharsis in the midst of a dating quagmire. It wasn't long, though, until I started to receive DMs from
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Let me guess: Avoid Dating Apps?
Gee, I WONDER WHY?...........................
In the olden days there were basically 2 places to find dates; go to a bar for drinks or go to church.
Sinners or reforming sinners.
Nothing wrong with dating apps.
Like my neighbor church decon says, “the problem with church is church people.”
Same goes for dating apps.
its not the tool but the people.
It’s too dangerous to approach at work that’s for sure
Same can be said for Free Republic.
The problem with Free Republic is Free Republic people.
No lady, you have it wrong. He truly knows "all my exes are psychos".
In the olden days there were basically 2 places to find dates; go to a bar for drinks or go to church.
At the very least, avoid hookup apps like Tinder.
Avoid this toxic female at alll costs.
OMFG, look at that land whale. On Tinder? Got to be kidding me.
Lol
There are some people who disagree with your contention. They say that choosing that way actually encourages poor outcomes, and changing the balance in a bad way. For example, on a dating app, women rate 85% - 90% of men as, “below average.” Which really isn’t a recipe for happiness for men or women.
Tinder? Is this a “real” woman?
Meh, I don’t care...
I didn't get mine to be a chick magnet. But it is.
Were I single, that part would be fun.
Being married, it can be a pain in the rear at times.
They (Unimogs) tend to attract conservative, outdoors type women.
They repel enviro-whackos and lefties.
My translations...
Curves = fat
A few extra pounds = Grotesquely obese.
BBW = Bring Burgers With
Sassy = Insufferable b*#tch
Sarcastic = Can’t Understand Normal Thinking
Likes to travel = You’re paying
Enjoys fine dining = You’re paying
Looking for friends first = You’re going to pay a lot
Likes kids = 3 or 4 baby daddies
Likes animals = CATS
Not Political = RABID screeching feminist blue haired Hillary supporter
My pet peeves:
Women who say they are attractive. Or funny. It’s self evident if you are attractive, and if you’re funny, say something funny!
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