Posted on 06/27/2014 2:36:24 PM PDT by nickcarraway
The choices we make. Nobodies fault but your own.
Today is my daughters 18th birthday.......
I’m so glad that this is my last child support payment.
Month after month, year after year, those payments!
I called my baby girl to come over to my house, and when she got there, I said to her, “Baby girl, I want you to take this last check over to your Mama’s house; You tell her that this is the last check she’s ever going to get from me, then I want you to come back here and tell me the expression she had on her face.”
So my baby girl took the check over to her. I was so anxious to hear what the ex had to say and how she took it.
As my baby girl walked through the door, I said, “Well now .. what did she have to say?”
“She told me to tell you that you ain’t my Daddy.”
oooh. dat’s cold
In the era of DNA, the child needs to know. It’s one of those secrets that can’t be kept anymore, and learning later on his/her own would be irreversibly devestating.
why would you post this from a Black rapper website??
what is the point?
Let the secret be your penance....you suffer and everyone else lives in peace...why spread the misery around.
As a husband and father, I wouldn't want to know. I would prefer to be blissfully ignorant.
If my wife 'fessed up something like this to me, I just don't think our family could ever recover from the hurt, anger and resentment that would ensue.
If the kid is only 2 years old, she has to “man up” and tell the husband, come what may. She may be afraid to do it but imagine the scenario where the kid is 16 or 17 or 20 and everyone still believes he is the father’s son. That would create so much more damage than telling the husband now. If she loves the child, she will tell the husband now.
(Btw, the same issue comes up — in an obviously different context — in adoption. One of my family members adopted a son, who is now 25, and never told him that he is adopted. They live in fear that he will find out one day and hate them for not telling him.)
Dear Anonymous,
Dishonesty already broke your whole family apart.
Your husband should get sole custody of his child.
That would leave you free to negotiate with the father of the other child for the expense of raising him/her.
I called my baby girl to come over to my house, and when she got there, I said to her, “Baby girl, I want you to take this last check over to your Mama’s house; You tell her that this is the last check she’s ever going to get from me, then I want you to come back here and tell me the expression she had on her face.”
So my baby girl took the check over to her. I was so anxious to hear what the ex had to say and how she took it.
As my baby girl walked through the door, I said, “Well now .. what did she have to say?”
“She told me to tell you that you ain’t my Daddy.”"
A dear friend who is a pastor, now 70, took me to the Boston area, we sat in the van and watched inner city blacks on Friday night, on the way home I asked him how any of them knew who their fathers were, who their half brothers and sisters are?
He said "there is no way for them to know so they knowingly and unknowingly interbreed and the problem only get's worse and worse."
I think he is right.
I get what your saying but the dad and the kid have a right to know. Wow, what an awful situation, come clean and let the cards fall where they may. Hopefully someone will learn something from the pain this person is suffering and the pain they are about to inflict on others.
The important thing for all three adults to remember is this, The Baby did nothing wrong and should not have to bear the brunt.
“If my wife ‘fessed up something like this to me, I just don’t think our family could ever recover from the hurt, anger and resentment that would ensue. “
My view is that the hurt and anger will be there anyway and likely build.
If the woman is totally broken and remorseful; she should bring the secret out and ask for forgiveness.
If she tries to hold it in, it will cause great issues.
The dad can still love the child as his own; and be a great role model for forgiveness and healing to the kids.
Imho, confessing to her husband would be a selfish act. This is her problem, and her penance is not making it her husband’s.
She would be admitting that she cheated on him and that could very well be the end of the marriage.
What a worthless wench to be in the advice industry. That married couple have children. Likee or no Likee - they have children who need their parents. Those children don’t know or care about DNA.
There is the other factor of their marriage having had a third party, assuming they had a religious marriage.
But, when nuts advise sluts, what difference does it make?
To the children, the quest for absolution will be both vain and destructive to the children. But the Slut wants to follow the advise of that nut - so who are we to say anything?
Thank you - let the secret be your penance, indeed and Amen.
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