Posted on 12/13/2002 9:14:10 AM PST by HairOfTheDog
~Monty Python's The Meaning of Life
ETIQUETTE for Hats and Caps
When a gentleman dons his hat to leave or doffs his hat to a lady, his actions are being described by two British colloquialisms that come from contractions of the phrases do on meaning to do, and the Middle English doffen, which became don off meaning to do off!
Hats are tipped, (or doffed) slightly lifting the hat off your forehead, when meeting a lady (remove your hat if you stop to talk), or to "say" to anyone, male or female thank you, excuse me, hello, goodbye, youre welcome or how do you do.
Tipping of the hat is a conventional gesture of politeness. This hat tipping custom has the same origin as military saluting, which came from the raising of medieval Knights face visors to show friendliness.
Hats are worn less now, but at the turn of the 20th century, all adults wore hats whenever they left the house. It was a matter of good personal hygiene, since hats were a protection from industrial dirt.
Hats are removed when inside, except for places that are akin to public streets, like lobbies, corridors, and crowded elevators (non-residential). In a public building (where there are no apartments) the elevator is considered a public area.
You may remove your hat in a public elevator in the presence of a lady and your had must be removed. A gentleman takes off his hat and holds it in his hand when a lady enters the elevator in an apartment house or hotel--any building, which can be classified as a dwelling. He puts it on again in the corridor.
A public corridor is like the street, but an elevator in a hotel or apartment house has the character of a room in a house and there a gentleman does not keep his hat on in the presence of ladies.
Hats are removed for the National Anthem, passing of the Flag and funeral processions, outdoor weddings, dedications, and photographs.
Removed hats are held in hand in such a way that only the outside and never the lining is visible.
In places of worship head coverings are required for both men and women in Muslim mosques, and Sikh temples.
Men are required to cover their heads in Jewish synagogues, but only married women wear hats or scarves representing a display of her increased modesty towards those other than the woman's husband.
The small, round head covering or skullcap worn by men is called a kippah which means, dome or cupola. The Yiddish word for the cap is yarmulke. The wearing of the yarmulke is a reminder of humility before God, a mark of respect in a Jewish congregation, and a sign of recognition of something greater above oneself, which is why many male Jews wear a head covering whenever they are awake, with the exceptions of bathing and swimming.
It is acceptable for women to wear hats in Christian churches, (it was once required, but the custom has all but disappeared) but disrespectful for men to wear them.
A woman may leave her hat on indoors or during the playing of The National Anthem, unless it is considered unisex like a baseball cap. When wearing such a unisex cap, a woman should follow the same guidelines as for men.
Why are there different rules for men and women? It may have to do with the difference in the styles of mens and women's hats.
Men's hats are easily removed, but women's hats with ribbons, bows, flowers and other decorations can be quite a production to remove, especially if they're anchored with hatpins. Women might also risk messing up their hairdos if they had to remove their hats. A lady, however, never wore brimmed hats after 5 PM, a fashion rule that developed because she didn't need a brim after sunset.
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I don't know how I feel about hats. I've worn some over the years, including fedoras, but don't think they suit me, so I don't wear one unless it's REALLY cold. Then over an earband I wear my blue wool hat with the red tassel that makes me look like a retarded French-Canadian. But a lot of guys look good in hats. There you go, Miss Hair, a nice fence-sitting "it depends"!
But this decade-old threadbare-baseball-cap-everywhere-you-go fetish: what a bunch of idiots! Monkey-see, monkey-do. And worn backwards: jeez, pal, get over yourself! How the baseball cap freaks manage to find decent women is beyond me.
The meaning of life is easy. The meaning of life is death. Because that's where you end up. You're welcome.
The National Anthem, church, or the flag demand respect. Simply walking into a restaurant demands NONE. It's just a friggin structure that you go into. You will have to fight me to get my hat off just to go inside.
I will take it off when I go eat at my grand parents, because they are the only ones I know that still hold those ancient standards. What in the heck does wearing a hat at a table have to do with showing or not showing respect?
Tex.... are you a single guy?
I'm not going to yank any hat off your head. If you're in my house, you'll take it off, or you can leave.
You have every God given/Constitution given right to wear your hat anywhere else you darn well please.
I believe I'm considerably older than you. It's a matter of manners that just aren't taught anymore. And that's a sad thing. But they're taught at my house. (I'll still open a door for a woman too)
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