Posted on 09/16/2026 9:48:38 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
The Institute for Family Studies (IFS) recently estimated that the gap between unmarried and married men under the age of 40 continues to widen—with 15 million more bachelors than husbands between the ages of 20 to 39 in 2025.
The gap has widened by 12.4 million since 2000, when the gap between married and unmarried stood at 2.6 million.
IFS also reports, according to a General Social Survey, 11 percent of young adults in the early 2000s said they were “not too happy.” That percentage is now at 26 percent. During the same period, the number of married men ages 20–39 dropped by 15 percent.
Leading the unhappiness charge are single men, who are either postponing or rejecting marriage, or not perceived as a suitable marriage partner by single women because of various societal changes.
This is a serious problem for American society.
In his book, “Men and Marriage,” (an expanded edition of his 1973 work “Sexual Suicide”) George Gilder wrote: “Men lust, but they don’t know what for; they wander, and lose track of the goal; they fight and compete, but they forget the prize; they spread seed but spurn the seasons of growth; they chase power and glory but miss the meaning of life.”
Brad Wilcox of IFS agrees with Gilder: “Such men are more likely to be lonely, prone to deaths of despair and unhappy. It’s never good for a society to have large numbers of unattached, dispirited, and unhappy young men.”
A Wall Street Journal article from last year titled, “American Women are Giving Up on Marriage,” touches on several reasons why women are not getting married—whether it be trouble finding a suitable man or choosing a career over marriage.
Disillusioned with the current state of what they perceive to be suitable and available men, they say they are more content with singleness than their male counterparts. A commonly heard complaint is that in their search of a suitable man to marry, they are only finding a world of “man-children.”
So, why has this happened? Why are there so many unmarried young men and why are women having a hard time finding a suitable partner in what would seemingly be an abundant harvest?
First, many of these young men have no idea of what it takes to be a husband or father because they had no one to model that for them. This is just another symptom of the breakdown of the family, a culture of divorce, and a society that has economically awarded single parent families while placing financial burdens on traditional two-parent families.
Secondly, especially among working class men, the jobs that would have traditionally provided for a family have either not kept up with inflation, or in some cases, simply disappeared. In addition, our educational system is no longer providing the needed training for these men to enter the workplace and succeed. Meanwhile, the number of men attending college, the ticket to good paying and stable jobs, continues to decrease.
Finally, numerous voices in our culture have sent a message that women can succeed without having a husband—“A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle,” as the saying goes. But when men are not marrying, there is a ripple effect that impacts all aspects of our society.
For example, according to the Centers for Disease Control, the percentage of children born outside of marriage has risen from 33.2 percent of all live births in 2000 to 39.5 percent in 2024. This means a much higher percentage of young people are growing up in single parent households. And single parent households are often more dependent upon government assistance, with boys who grow up without a father often ending up failing socially and economically.
Those numbers also indicate that we’re hurtling toward a demographic disaster. Married couples not only provide a nurturing environment for children but also are more likely to have children.
It is not that young men have given up on marriage. Pew Research reported in 2023 that 74 percent of teenage boys want to be married someday. The problem is that many have no internal road map or GPS to help them get there.
As a society, we need to equip these young men with the skills, personal discipline, and sense of purpose to make them “marriage material.” It is a time for us, as a society, to return to a time when men have purpose—to be faithful husbands, loving fathers, and good providers.
This is going to be a long process, and it will require a long-term societal investment in affirming healthy, traditional two-parent families with engaged fathers who model such discipline and purpose to their sons. Boys do not have a choice when it comes to the families they are born into, but adults can make the right choices to help them flourish and thrive.
Men, women, and our society will be much better off as a result.
The long term goal that the oligarchs are looking at is to replace manual labor with robotics. Birth rates are declining throughout the world, including the Muslim world and sub-Saharan Africa. Countries like Nigeria are still well above replacement rate, but are declining. The birth rate is at 1.95 in 2026 and has been on a decline since 1970, when the rate was 6.75. As robotics replace functions like home cleaning, construction, and driving, the utility and cost benefits of immigrant labor decline.
What you say is true - or rather will likely be true in the distant future - but hype aside, robotic aren’t anywhere close to being able to replace unskilled or semi-skilled manual labor with machines anytime soon (except for completely repetitive, mostly stationary tasks like putting a bolt into a single assembly line unit). With such technology decades away, the oligarchs need cheap and obedient wage slaves. Westerners want high pay and rights, and so are too uppity to perform this function, so in the meantime, the more Third World people breed, proliferate, and invade, the happier the oligarchy will be.
Those people won’t go home simply because they don’t have jobs here. They are here to stay.
Klaus Schwab said he’d be ok with a billion.
He doubled your chance to survive the apocalypse.
1. "We" don't need to do anything.
2. Men have been fixing the problem by walking away.
3. Yeah, let's keep focusing on young men viewing pornography and ignore the disturbing views that mothers teach their daughters.
4. Young men are not repulsed by and fearful of sex with females. They just don't want Pookie and Ray Ray's leftovers. And they see no reason to interact with unmarriageable women - unmarriageable by the women's own choice. That is, until they hit the wall and decide they're ready to find some simp to settle down with and pay for Pookie and Ray Ray's kids. Then, after they've taken a break from the carousel, divorce the simp for half his money, and move on to the next ride.
He’s tall and dark and has multiple aspects of the three triads.
LOL, sure, hiding away with porn and sel love is fixing them and society, thank God the majority of people are still interacting and dating.
My guess is that the young Marine males are still talking to females and dating them.
Not right now.
So there's a void.
Eventually, Islam will conquer the West.
The title of the thread is "Why Men Aren't Marrying", not "Why Men Aren't Talking To Females and Dating Them".
These women are throwing it around like birdseed and then wondering why men aren't marrying them. Even simps don't want to wife someone up after the 1st, 2nd, and 4th Marine Divisions ran through them and left them with four children from three fathers.
Delusional woman after delusional woman insists "body count doesn't matter" and then refuse to tell theirs, and insist that having children from other men isn't a red flag. All while being told "You go girl. You're a kween. You don't need no man."
And the propagandists, both korporate and others such as you, insist it's because men "won't man up", "they're just afraid of women", "they're watching porn instead of dealing with real females".
Well, they can take all their opinions and feelings -
Feminism didn’t free women from the oppression they were told they were under, it freed men from the oppression they didn’t know they were under.
Yep, My guess is that the young Marine males are still talking to females and dating them and getting married to females.
The problems of modern divorce laws and feminism won’t be fixed by child-men sitting in the dark self-loving themselves to images of the scary sex they are afraid to talk to in real life.
It won’t be fixed by men rewarding the system by continuing to marry.
Your contradictory posts are impossible to make sense of.
You want the end of marriage, you don’t want them dating women, or interacting with females, and your problem with having sex with males is that you could catch a disease, is that what you want for all males?
I never said that I wanted the end of marriage. I said that, under the current system, only a very stupid and simpish man would marry. When the system is fixed so the man is not screwed over can marriage be salvaged.
You can’t tell men that they are to be financially connected to the ex-wife forever and that their life is over upon being married that it’s a good idea to marry.
You have to fix it so it is not a lottery for the woman and forever punishment for the man if you want to preserve marriage. Men are responding to the incentives before them.
You want marriage and families to end for right now, until feminism and divorce laws are all fixed which may or may not ever happen, at least not anytime soon.
So no marriage or families for at least many years, do you want males to still like females and want to date them and enjoy their company?
What we fear is weaponized rejection (online humiliation, gratuitous sexual harassment complaints and restraining orders, rejections so “nuclear” that a man does not dare show his face in the same venue again, etc.). Nowadays, in certain circumstances, a perfectly fine approach can cost a man his job.
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Happened to someone I know. I dont think he will ever find a wife. He decided to travel and buy toys instead.
Marriage will not be fixed, as long as it is rewarded. It will never be fixed as long as it is rewarded. Females wanted all of the power and they will not let go of the power.
80% of men are better off not being married, as things stand. There is no reward to marriage for 80% of males.
Not wanting your life to be over does not mean you hate females. If the only way to prove that you like females is to commit suicide, than go ahead and commit suicide because the system and the vast majority of females will happily and joyfully help you commit suicide.
If marriage must die so males are not sacrificed, so be it. Let marriage be over.
The only way to fix it
“”””If marriage must die so males are not sacrificed, so be it. Let marriage be over.””””
How about dating and liking female company for dinner and drinks?
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