“2) Statistically, most domestic abuse is initiated by women, so let’s not only see men as the bad person here.”
Whoa there. It’s wives who get killed by husbands in the vast number of spousal murders!
Your statement is true.
But my statement is also true: Most of the domestic abuse is initiated by women.
No one is saying that women "deserve" any of it. But women physically attack men quite often. And sometimes the end result is that the man kills the woman. No one should choose violence. That is a lesson that should be learned by both men and women.