Posted on 08/02/2025 7:37:40 PM PDT by DoodleBob
You presumably also had a passel of step-siblings.
I wish that there were clinical studies and reports we could read on the impact of step-siblings on the lives of children of divorce.
Regards,
Your parents shouldn't have involved you in their domestic disputes. You shouldn't have been allowed to witness that incident, whatever it was (I am assuming that it was some hurtful remark that your father made to your mother).
Marital disputes should be conducted behind closed doors.
Regards,
Divorce is harmful to children, but marriage to a violent person or a cheater is worse. Sometimes, you must divorce to try to protect the children.
Nope. Reflecting on it, I recall that it was a holiday. My dad had a temper and he would always be in a bad mood each holiday for some reason and would blow up over some little thing.
I remember my mom crying and saying that he was like that every holiday and ruined every holiday.
They never argued in front of us nor even where we could overhear them. That much I do remember. I mentioned once about how they didn’t argue or disagree and she said they disagreed plenty but not in front of us. Sometimes they’d go for car rides, just for something to do, they said, but now I think it was to discuss things they didn’t want us to overhear them fighting or arguing about.
52 years of marriage this year with my highschool girlfriend. Got married 4 months out of highschool and no.... our first kid was 4 years later and another 7 years after the first. Life is good.
I sometimes wonder how many American parents decide to have children for their own amusement.
I see a lot of fathers go on income strikes at least until the divorce is settled.
Destroys kids, but “parents” do not care.
I don’t disagree with what you’re saying. Personally, of all the people I’ve known getting divorced my entire life; there’s only been 1 man who filed out of 10-12. It’s a fact that women file for divorce more than men. Why is that? Are there just so many abusive men out there or is there something else going on?
Feel free to respond with a good reason or 2 why women file more often than men.
Hen-pecked husbands and bullied boyfriends need love too. /s
I can tell you that my parents divorce when I was only 2yrs old, has had a seriously damaging effect on me. Both parents re-married and had children, which always made me feel like I didn’t know where to belong. Don’t get me wrong, both were very loving parents. But I never understood why things were the way they were until much later in life.
“They dont vet people being married“
As far as I know the Catholic Church does. They want to know you understand what you’re getting into . The two of you have to go to a prescribed number of meetings with the church, I forget the details now.
I don’t know the stats and even claims of abuse or other misbehavior can be suspect, but personally I know two women who filed for divorce because of being hospitalized from beatings.
I suspect that abuse and cheating are the leading causes. And there are reports of women who try to make the marriage work but can’t. If the guy won’t stop abusing her or the kids, or refuses to be faithful, I don’t see many more options.
Actually I did not know them...even tho my Dad married several times, and lived only 7 miles away...we did not see he and spouse(s) enough to know of them...until at a class reunion I got introduced to a “brother”...and my mother married childless men
that and because our culture has been in generational decline for awhile, a lot of men are carrying childhood wounds and psychological complexes...so even if they're well to do on the "provider" front -- they have a lot of personality issues to deal with.
And addictions...
Shameful - on the part of your father!
I am familiar with cases in which the father (post-divorce) married another woman with children of about the same age as his own children (from the first marriage), and began assuming the role of "father" to these new kids (taking them to Cub Scout meetings, etc.) - while his "previous" children languished.
Shameful!
Regards,
Many (not all) men in younger generations especially those who experienced the divorce of their own parents or fatherlessness, battle childhood trauma (sometimes severe) and even the most seemingly functional/financially/spiritually sound ones on paper, have hidden addictions — namely to pornography.
BUMP for later
My father had “issues”.. after his death I learned 1) his father committed suicide by hanging himself somewhere on family property when he was 14...2) a year later his grandfather was murdered by the hired hand...so..he joined Navy and was in Battle of Leyte at age 17...made a lot of stuff fall into place. My mother was her own special piece of work...
One in 4 American women are on psych meds and another 1/4 need to be but aren’t. Tell me again which gender is screwed up.
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