Posted on 06/22/2025 2:02:49 AM PDT by Cronos
We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference. They perform elsewhere. Alone. They’ve filtered us out.
I recently experienced a flicker of possibility. With James. We met on Raya, the dating app. There was something mutual from the start — wordplay, emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned. It was brief, but it caught light. I remember saying to him, “Even fleeting connections matter, when they’re mutual and lit from the inside.” I meant it.
There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold. Enough curiosity to imagine a doorway. But he didn’t step through it. Not with a plan. Not with presence. He hovered — flirting, retreating, offering warmth but no direction.
Sexual tension and a spark aren’t reason enough to sit still and hope there’s substance behind the shimmer. So I named what I felt. I texted him clearly, with care, not simply to declare attraction but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible. I didn’t chase. I invited, leaving the door open. If he ever wanted to cross the threshold — not just to take, but to meet — I was willing. I wanted. I still do.
He never replied. He still follows my Instagram stories — one of those small gestures of passive engagement that so many of us now mistake for closeness. It looks like interest. It feels like silence.
There are thousands of Jameses. I have known dozens. The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar.
...here’s what’s real: We never needed you to be perfect. We needed you to be with us. Not above. Not muted. Not masked. Just with.
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Hum a few bars, and I'll wing it!
Regards,
You overestimate the math skills of modern women; they are largely innumerate.
Women have little to no concept of large numbers (or, conversely, small numbers). They don't realize that 2% (height) of 2% (wealth) is four out of ten thousand.
But their "list" also contains further criteria, like "not gay," "not already married," "liberal," or "must wholeheartedly accept my two bastard children and be willing to deal with my ex-con baby-daddy," thus further narrowing the playing field.
Regards,
No, of course: They're all good possibilities.
Regards,
The figures you cite are based on mere referrals received by the U.K.'s "Gender Identity Development Service" (GIDS) between 2009 and 2019. These are not individuals who necessarily underwent medical transition - rather, they were merely making inquiries / requesting consulting. And the absolute numbers involved here? The number of referrals for girls rose from 40 (in 2009) to over 1,700 (in 2019) - the 4,400% increase you reference.
While the number of referrals for boys rose from 40 to over 400 (the 1,000% increase you cite).
Those are, however, rather low absolute numbers.
I'd like to see comparable numbers for the U.S. And I'd like to see absolute numbers for the actual medical transitions.
Also: I don't think that disparate numbers for boys/girls necessarily invalidate the conservative perception that there is a "war on masculinity": Girls wishing to transition are viewed as victims of sexual abuse (by men) who are attempting to escape their "vulnerability" (i.e., femininity), while boys wishing to transition are viewed as having "wised up," accepted that being male is evil, and are hence trying to shed their male identity.
Regards,
Sour grapes!
It would be devastating for a mid-30s woman to confess that she wants children, even though she has squandered her peak fertility years (18-31) in favor of casual relationships and/or career success (those technical reports ain't gonna file themselves, after all - and when she's lying on her death bed, at 99, the fact that she was once the junior vice-president of accounts for electronic widgets or plastic doohickies for her company before it was sold to the Chinese will give her solace). So, of course, they feign indifference to the matter.
Regards,
The majority of divorce-filers are women.
The overwhelming majority of men are not life-enders.
There are literally tens of millions of men who have been taken to the cleaners in the divorce courts by women.
There were roughly 20,000 murders in the U.S. last year. And 72% of the victims were male.
The probability of a man undergoing "divorce-rape" by a woman is thus far, far greater than the probability of a woman being murdered by a man.
Regards,
I think that you mean: Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment.
Regards,
But let's just say that I agreed with you (I don't). It's that very delusion of sexual freedom that is preventing men from making a stand for their rights. Let's see if any of you can understand that.
I’m not the one luring sailors to their “death”. I’m the one warning them about falling for it.
Some variation of this is ALWAYS the response I get from feminists. Yet they get highly pissed and will totally reject me responding "OK. Then when she let a man stick it into her, she made her choice." See? To them women get a choice but men get no choice. They're absolutely not for equality. They want superior rights for women.
What is the single most unhappy demographic in America? Single professional women in their 40s.
Bill Belichek is a famous multi super bowl winning multi year NFL head coach and current coach of a major college football team. According to most estimates, his net worth is about $80 million. His current girlfriend is about 50 years younger than he is.
I do not know the family, so I couldn’t say where dad was. I didn’t say anything to them other than what was posted. I suppose he could have been working.
Phone fat-finger, and small screen.
So what you’re saying is that a large number women lie on anonymous surveys? Check your own tagline.
There are literally tens of millions of men who have been taken to the cleaners in the divorce courts by women.
How many of those men blew up their own marriages through adultery, domestic violence, etc.? There's a reason Ashley Madison created female chatbots; there weren't enough married women signing up relative to the number of men. It's important to separate the men who truly are innocent victims from the men who brought it upon themselves through their own poor choices.
Sure, there are 30-something women who still want kids, but statistics say it’s declining and more common among childless men.
They're just explaining the male perspective.
And I was just explaining the female perspective, as it seemed to be lacking on this thread. TalBlack seemed oblivious to the fact that women have had to worry about their lives being destroyed by the wrong partner since forever yet somehow, despite being "the weaker sex", still found the courage to put themselves out there. If they hadn't, we wouldn't be here having this conversation.
You may set an age range topping out at 40 but I notice rich older men always seem able to get attractive younger women. This is true around the world and has been true throughout history. It may not be to your taste but obviously there are plenty of other women to whom their partner's age is not a huge turnoff.
Oh, I don't doubt there will always be older man/younger woman couples. I just question if the younger woman is genuinely attracted to him against her biological imperative to conceive the healthiest children possible or if she's just using him for his money. I think both sexes attract what they put out. If a woman offers only sex then she really shouldn't be surprised when the only kind of man interested in her is the "Wham, Bam, Thank You Ma'am" type. Similarly, if all a man brings to the table is his income, without looks or personality, gold-diggers will be all he'll attract.
I keep Telegram open, as there are a number of friends and former coworkers that stay in touch.
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