Posted on 06/22/2025 2:02:49 AM PDT by Cronos
We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference. They perform elsewhere. Alone. They’ve filtered us out.
I recently experienced a flicker of possibility. With James. We met on Raya, the dating app. There was something mutual from the start — wordplay, emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned. It was brief, but it caught light. I remember saying to him, “Even fleeting connections matter, when they’re mutual and lit from the inside.” I meant it.
There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold. Enough curiosity to imagine a doorway. But he didn’t step through it. Not with a plan. Not with presence. He hovered — flirting, retreating, offering warmth but no direction.
Sexual tension and a spark aren’t reason enough to sit still and hope there’s substance behind the shimmer. So I named what I felt. I texted him clearly, with care, not simply to declare attraction but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible. I didn’t chase. I invited, leaving the door open. If he ever wanted to cross the threshold — not just to take, but to meet — I was willing. I wanted. I still do.
He never replied. He still follows my Instagram stories — one of those small gestures of passive engagement that so many of us now mistake for closeness. It looks like interest. It feels like silence.
There are thousands of Jameses. I have known dozens. The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar.
...here’s what’s real: We never needed you to be perfect. We needed you to be with us. Not above. Not muted. Not masked. Just with.
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And then after the Women set the hook, reel in and land the Men in the boat is when the Women really start to WANT THE MEN TO CHANGE INTO WHAT THE Women WANT !!!
Just let Us Men continue to be Men...
Long term lady friend and I tried moving in together after we'd dated for five years successfully. It didn't work out. I felt like I was under so much scrutiny and stress from her that I just couldn't take it.
So one day when she decided she wanted to win an argument despite being demonstrably wrong, she decided to use one of my vulnerabilities against me to "shut me up" and win the argument.
Thankfully the only things I'd moved to her house were clothes, toiletries, my personal computer and my work laptop along with a stand-up desk.
All of which was out of her home and in my truck within an hour and I left without saying a word while she sat crying, realizing what she'd done.
There's no amount of apologizing that can be done to recover from that. When I got back home later that evening and walked into my home, the first words that exited my mouth were "thank God that's over!"
I still thank God that's over. No desire to try again at this point either and it's been almost a year now since leaving her.
No. But he still looks like a fool.
He may look like a fool to you but he doubtless doesn't care what you think. He appears to be happy. Two consenting adults..........
I know that the bad women are taking advantage of the openly rigged system, but if men are too whipped to stop allowing bad women to take advantage of them, that's their fault.
Men fall in love. Women fall in opportunity.
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When my church lady friend wanted to set me up with a date, I had two questions—Is he a Trump fan? Does he like dogs? The answers to both questions were yes. We are married now.
Congratulations! That’s pretty neat!
That's blaming the victim. Try that on a woman.
Let's stop the lie that it's women who are taking advantage of men. It's also men who are taking advantage of other men from behind an entire government and legal system.
“it’s women who are taking advantage of men.”
A rash generalization. I had to start my life over because a conMAN took advantage of me and took every penny.
A rash generalization.
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My comment was "Let's stop the lie that it's women who are taking advantage of men."
You took away "it's women who are taking advantage of men".
It's tradition for many on Free Republic to comment without reading the article, but to reply to a comment without reading the comment is something new.
We are in agreement about feminism.
I was referring to desirability.
Fact: Old men are NOT desirable, no matter how wealthy.
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