Posted on 06/15/2025 6:46:27 PM PDT by DoodleBob
A man turns to Reddit for support after a heated disagreement with his ex over how their children should spend Father’s Day.
He shares in his post that he and his ex, who were never married, share 50-50 custody of their two kids, ages 11 and 9, and that their arrangement has always been clear: “My ex always got Mother’s Day while I always got Father’s Day. That’s written into our court order and this has never been challenged before.”
Four years ago, his ex married a man named Nick, and the blended family has since grown with a child together and another on the way.
Now, the man explains that his "ex and Nick want the kids to be with them on Father’s Day and to celebrate the day with Nick specifically.”
He points out that the occasion is being turned into a larger gathering, as his “ex’s whole family and Nick’s whole family are getting together and they’re turning it into a family day.”
His ex argues that this makes it even more important for the kids to be there, but she also has another motive. “She has also stated she feels as though they mistreat Nick and this would be my way of saying it needs to stop,” he writes.
The reason for this tension, he explains, is that “the kids don’t like him and on family trees or family drawings they never included him.”
He reveals that his children “don’t call to wish [Nick] a Happy Father’s Day and they choose to ask me to do fatherly events with them instead of Nick, including on my ex’s time.”
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Just as likely!
Regards,
SECOND PARAGRAPH:
He shares in his post that he and his ex, who were never married, share 50-50 custody of their two kids, ages 11 and 9, and that their arrangement has always been clear: “My ex always got Mother’s Day while I always got Father’s Day. That’s written into our court order and this has never been challenged before.”Regards,
You're muddled (or I'm totally misreading what you wrote): It's the bio-dad towards whom the mother (and step-father, probably) are carefully and methodically cultivating a resentment in the kids. It's the bio-dad whom the children allegedly want to exclude from the family-tree!
Regards,
Regards,
“If she breeches that court order, I would go for full custody!”
Oh, yeah, the Family Court extortion cabal will be all over the mother breaching the Parenting Plan. Top priority!
Reasonable men don’t sign unreasonable contracts
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“Gee, I wonder where that animosity towards their biological father”
I had to re-read the excerpt to see that the Reddit dad is speaking of his Ex’s new husband, not himself. The kids don’t like the new, bolt-on dad their mom strapped on
“What’s really sad is that this man’s stupidity is hurting his own children.”
Nice shooting Tex, but you got the wrong guy.
FTA:
[Nick is the new dad]
“She has also stated she feels as though they [the kids] mistreat Nick and this would be my way of saying it needs to stop,” he writes.
The reason for this tension, he explains, is that “the kids don’t like him [Nick] and on family trees or family drawings they never included him.”
He reveals that his children “don’t call to wish [Nick] a Happy Father’s Day and they choose to ask me [bio dad] to do fatherly events with them instead of Nick, including on my ex’s time.”
Let’s see, I have family problems, I’ll solve it or get support by going on social media.
Idiots.
The article is very poorly written.
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I agree that the system is ridiculously slanted one way. What would have happened if he didn’t agree and sign the “unreasonable contract”? Probably would have zero custody and zero visitation. System sux.
Reddit does a lot of “stump the sub” where people make up stories trying to stump the responders
True...I posted that, too...
When what you say (above) is true of second marriage partners towards the first marriage partners' kids, it is not only an inappropriate expectation on the part of the new spouse, it's also plain evil on the part of the former spouse. It's distressing for the kids to be used as a bargaining chip or agent of a vendetta. They sense it and it destroys respect for all the adults.
It's a very, very bad idea to have children with a person who is not fully and publicly committed in marriage. This is especially where "putting in the work" should be done. Families and churches need to step up their mentoring and preparation for marriage and parenthood. Sadly, many of today's churches would rather rhapsodize over the LGBTQ agenda than form Christian families.
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