It happened to us with our younger daughter, and it started during Covid.
We didn’t discuss politics and had always supported her and her husband’s ambitions in life. We respected her privacy and didn’t try to tell them what to do or criticize their choices. We had a strong family relationship with virtually no unpleasantness or animosity until she turned about 40, and then she snapped and we’re suddenly responsible for effing up her life somehow.
I tried reaching out in a loving way and telling her how much we missed having her in our lives, but she would not respond. Sending birthday greetings infuriated her, because she’ll ‘let us know’ when it’s ok to contact her.
It hurts. I had a great relationship with her. Until I didn’t. Literally in the snap of a finger, and I don’t know why.
My wife, her mother, is an angel and doesn’t deserve this. In 2023, my wife faced 4 serious spine surgeries and I sent a message to our daughter to let her know that her mother’s health was not good. She never responded.
This is a HEALTH CARE WORKER - a surgical tech. Makes me wonder about her compassion for the patients she interacts with on a daily basis. Frankly, I think there’s some mental illness going on here.
Sorry for pouring my heart out inappropriately...
Your experience is echoed throughout the country.
Search estrangement parents and you will discover almost 35 percent of parents have one or more estranged child.
People are hurt and ashamed. They often think that it is somehow their fault.
It is not you and you cannot fix it.
I am so sorry to hear your story. That is very sad. Prayers for you and your wife.
There have been three rather pivotal moments in America since Reagan that have shifted relationships meaningfully.
1. 9/11 and the Iraq War.
2. Obama destroying race relations.
3. Trump and 2020 (covid and the riots).
#3 has been the most acute. Things have not returned to normal. Many people have also not “come back.”
I pray for reconciliation for those who want to have harmony.
Liberalism is a mental disorder.
And my condolences on the whole situation.
I know it’s no comfort, but you guys aren’t alone, and it’s not your fault. There is literally nothing in modern society that tells kids that it’s evil to cause that kind of pain to a parent.
And they have a swirling “mental health” cult that tells them they are brave, strong, principled, etc.