Posted on 03/24/2025 5:58:27 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
After a handful of underwhelming relationships and dozens of disappointing first dates, Andrea Vorlicek recently called off the search for a husband.
The 29-year-old always thought she’d have found her life partner by now. Instead, she’s house hunting solo and considering having kids on her own.
“I’m financially self-sufficient enough to do these things myself,” said Vorlicek, a Boston-based accountant. “I’m willing to accept being single versus settling for someone who isn’t the right fit.”
She sees her plans for an independent future as making the best of a lousy situation. “I don’t want to sit here and say I’m 100% happy,” Vorlicek said. “But I feel happier just accepting my reality. It’s mentally and emotionally a sense of peace.”
American women have never been this resigned to staying single. They are responding to major demographic shifts, including huge and growing gender gaps in economic and educational attainment, political affiliation and beliefs about what a family should look like.
“The numbers aren’t netting out,” said Daniel Cox, director of the survey center at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI), a conservative think tank. He ticked off the data points: More women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and careers over dating and marriage.
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Actually, the stay at home Mom is an American cultural 50’s, 60’s creation. Women have worked outside of the home throughout our country’s history. Exceptions are the well heeled families with generational wealth. My Grandmother worked in the 1930’s and 1940’s outside the home to help support the home. As a child she worked in the fabric mills from the age of 10. She only had opportunity to be a housewife in 1950’s when my grandfather landed a union job with Revereware in Riverside, CA. They struggled before - leaving Connecticut during the war for a factory job in Washington State - grandmother worked also in daycare for kids. Then onto California to apple orchards in Oak Glen after the war. Grandmother worked in the packing house while Grandfather worked in the orchards. They had housing provided by the land owner. My Grandmother’s older brother gifted them $600 to put down on a home in Riverside, CA so my Grandfather could take the position at the Revereware plant.
I think it is great that your Mom was a great housewife. You need to open up to understanding that this is not the norm for everyone.
You were blessed, I acknowledge that. Not all families are so blessed. I pray we enter a Golden Age under Trump that will give families the opportunities to make the chices the truly need for their families.
Men respond to their being needed. Women have made it clear that they don’t men, except the 20% they hover around. Men who are not needed go do their own thing and remove themselves from being needed.
Pride is a glue that keeps sin stuck to you.
Pride blinds you from seeing actual love and truth, from being kind, from preferring God.
Thank You, thank you, thank you!!!!!!
God bless you for speaking the truth.
And that's yet another reason why you don't go for the 30 something chick who thinks she's settling for you. If she really wanted to be with you, she would have done that in her 20s.
It is indeed telling that women so frequently speak of wanting to find a "partner" or their "person." Almost as though they were ashamed to bluntly and honestly state that they were seeking a man.
Unless they are setting conditions / using shaming tactics. Then, it's "a real man would..."
A woman at age 29 has already wasted a decade of her prime child-bearing years. (In all likelihood, she has also reached a "notch-count" in the dozens, thereby frying her pair-bonding synapses.) Now, at 29, her standards and demands are paradoxically higher than they were during her "party years." She now needs a loyal and submissive "beta" to integrate himself into her "frame" and jump through all the hoops that the "alphas" in her late teens and early twenties didn't have to contend with.
This would be comparable to a man simply "coasting" during what would otherwise have been his most-important preparatory years, when he is supposed to be acquiring the skills and qualifications needed to subsequently secure the wherewithal to provide for a family.
Regards,
That should have been "a statistically impossible"
Which explains the men in women’s sports, men being put in women’s prisons, silence in the face of muslim abuse of women, and how over the decades/centuries rape has been dealt with.
Men (males) and women (females) whom I have seen, that they do fairly well, have all been given responsibilities at a young age.
Beginning at 4 - 5 years.
Any of them, behaving self-ish-ly or pride-ful-ly, are told by their elders: “No.” Along with an explanation of “the why of it.”
The elders are teachers. The young’uns are students.
All of them, work to take care of each other.
Men respond to being needed. They’ve been told that they are not needed, so they only expend the energy needed to serve themselves.
Except you forgot the role the looks of the woman has to do with it.
Men may be fine with someone not a threat to them in education and income, but by gosh, when it comes to looks, the non-model types, of which there are many, pay. It's kind of staggering how many men put such a premium on looks and act like they deserve some kind of beauty queen for a girlfriend, no matter what THEY look like.
bttt
Its simple. Men value youth and beauty while women value status and resources. Yes, I'm aware these are generalizations and don't hold for every person. They are nevertheless, generally accurate. I wouldn't feel the least bit "threatened" by a woman who earned more than I did. It really wouldn't be a major consideration for me at all. I'd be fine if the woman earned less than I do too. Like most men, it just isn't a major consideration for me.
My ex and the girlfriends I had before her were not model types but they were my type.
A man in his late-thirties has probably endured, repeatedly, many successive years of loneliness - but he has by no means "missed" the opportunity to marry.
On the contrary, a professional man at that age has reached "Peak Sexual Market Value" (as judged by women!).
In contrast, women reach their "PSMV" at about age 22. After that, their "assets" begin to diminish in value.
Any educational attainments or career achievements they may then strive for are of absolutely no interest to marriage-minded men.
A single man at age 38, I met and married my then 22-year-old wife.
Regards,
In either case, being well adjusted and emotionally healthy will result in a good relationship and good marriage.
If either party is looking for someone to validate them or give them meaning, or for whatever they can get out of them, that marriage/relationship will end up in trouble.
There is something very attractive about self-confidence. Nobody wants a clinger or someone who will smother them. Nobody needs to marry a child. You're their spouse, not their mommy or daddy. Be a partner, not a liability.
Saddling someone else with the responsibility to make you happy, is exceedingly unfair to them, forcing them to carry a load no human being was meant to carry and is incapable of doing.
And women as well.
Try being a stay at home mom, and one who homeschools to boot.
DEI and H1B visas play a HUGE role in that. I know some 30 year old men who've had a devil of a time finding a job because they don't fit any quotas.
It's not just women taking the jobs that's closing out the job market. It's liberal politics, that men (suicidally) also vote for.
Interestingly, the low marriage rates we are observing are also having an effect on the political landscape.
Men and women used to marry young, and the (initially more-liberal) wives would then gradually adopt the political orientation of their (more-conservative) husbands.
(Besides this "transfer effect," I believe that the mere fact that a woman is living in a household with a working husband, and caring for his children - while seeing the husband's paycheck getting milked dry by a rapacious State to pay for unmarried mothers, etc. - might also play a rôle.)
Increasingly, that effect has been taken out of the equation.
The Democrat Party is thus profiting from the epidemic of marriagelessness.
Regards,
Both boys and girls have been exposed to / indoctrinated with this language - but, strangely, it seems to have "stuck" only with the women.
Never heard a male talk about wanting to find his "person," or yearning for a "life partner."
Regards,
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