Posted on 03/24/2025 5:58:27 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
After a handful of underwhelming relationships and dozens of disappointing first dates, Andrea Vorlicek recently called off the search for a husband.
The 29-year-old always thought she’d have found her life partner by now. Instead, she’s house hunting solo and considering having kids on her own.
“I’m financially self-sufficient enough to do these things myself,” said Vorlicek, a Boston-based accountant. “I’m willing to accept being single versus settling for someone who isn’t the right fit.”
She sees her plans for an independent future as making the best of a lousy situation. “I don’t want to sit here and say I’m 100% happy,” Vorlicek said. “But I feel happier just accepting my reality. It’s mentally and emotionally a sense of peace.”
American women have never been this resigned to staying single. They are responding to major demographic shifts, including huge and growing gender gaps in economic and educational attainment, political affiliation and beliefs about what a family should look like.
“The numbers aren’t netting out,” said Daniel Cox, director of the survey center at the American Enterprise Institute (AEI), a conservative think tank. He ticked off the data points: More women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and careers over dating and marriage.
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Enjoy your experience. Better late than never. My sister has two grandchildren from her son and one on the way with her daughter.
What about romance novels, or the Lifetime channel. Unrealist expectations anyone?
We've crossed that point in many locations already and we're approaching it overall.
There are already 200 responses so this one is going to get lost in the high decibel din, but here goes anyway.
Reading this, I thought about a 1950s play that became a movie with Ernest Borgnine, “Marty.” He is the 50s version of an incel, a man who runs around with his friends because he is convinced he will never find a woman would love him, until he discovers Clara, a frumpy teacher who likes him, and they end up living happily, etc.
Three points. First, both are willing to settle—not for less love, but for fewer trophies. Second, neither is trying to define themselves without love: Clara isn’t a teacher only, and Marty isn’t a butcher only.
Third point. A truism about economics is that in socialism the people line up for bread, while in capitalism the bread lines up (on store shelves) for people. In traditional culture, the man is openly looking for a woman to marry, while the woman needs to be subtle in the way she manipulates the choice process. That is no longer the case, but men don’t like to be thought of as the bread on the shelf hoping for the right customer.
Most men are not trophies: they are Martys, looking for Claras who will love them and whom they can love. The problem is that Clara today is a teacher with tattoos, purple hair, Marxist ideology, and a dozen previous partners, who can’t understand why men aren’t looking for women like her. Men are looking for bread, and they are multicolored Playdohs.
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Educated girls are screwed up
Self fulfillment
Careers not jobs
Tinder urge satisfactions
Marriage is not a priority
They are like Rachel Zeigler “Snow White”
Antiquated ideas
You are correct. What are the odds she will hate herself for settling and dump him down the road.
Beautifully stated. As my sister-in-law says about my brother, “I chased him until he caught me.”
I thank God daily for the nearly 39 years I spent with a wonderful old=fashioned woman with a big heart. I miss her so!
I suspect it's already happening. Worse, I suspect it's a stereotypical mixed family where she already has one trophy from Pookie or Ray-Ray and now has another from her Captain Save-A-Hoe from farm country.
Satan smiles and spreads his wings.
Translation: “I couldn’t find a Chad and I deserve the best”
It used to be that a man with a working class job could earn enough to support a family and own a home and have a stay at home wife.
It used to be that a man with a white collar job or a small business owner could earn enough to have a really nice lifestyle with a stay-at-home wife.
Neither of these things are true anymore, and it’s all been done by design on purpose.
Both the working class and the middle class have it much harder today.
And one of the intended outcomes of making it harder for everyone is a culture where women are programmed to believe that they’re supposed to have a high-powered career, while simultaneously looking down on men who don’t have high powered careers as losers.
At least the old fashioned gold digging woman didn’t look down on a man who was a truck driver or a plumber. He just wasn’t what she was looking for.
America became an economic superpower during a time when hardly anybody had a college degree. And small local business owners made up of far greater share of the upper middle class.
The modern day college to corporate/government cubicle pipeline has been our undoing in oh so many ways.
I wouldn’t touch a modern day corporate/government career woman with a 10-ft pole. They can enjoy their “bucket lists” with their BFF’s.
My mom was a proud housewife and was more worldly and well read than 95% of them!
Over 80% of American women in their 20s and 30s are simply not worth the risk. They’re self absorbed, narcissistic, and have completely unrealistic expectations for men along with a hugely over inflated view of their own worth.
They have no clue how to treat a man yet they expect to be treated like queens.
It’s no wonder men of value are simply walking away from the dating scene. And who in their right mind would want to get married when she can at any moment walk away with half of everything including his kids?
My advice to young men is to find a wife from Eastern Europe or Asia. Their minds haven’t been poisoned by decades of feminism.
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The birth control pill also messes women up, because women are kept in a state of pregnancy when taking the pill. When they are in a pregnant state, they desire a more reliable man who is more of a partner than leader.
You can see this in Meghan Kelly and her husbands. Her first husband was a beta male and she had no kids. When she divorced him and married a more masculine male, she suddenly had three kids in short order.
Ding! Men don't want women in their 30s who have been around the block too many times. Firstly, they're old to be starting to think about having kids. Their fertility has already declined considerably and is sinking fast. Secondly, they often think they're settling when they reach that age. If you have any self respect as a man, some aging girl boss who's spent a decade and a half sleeping around and who thinks she's settling for you is not at all what you want.
Re: “Eventually, our society will become more religious.”
Not if these religious families turn their precious children over to the godless Marxist indoctrination camps that are wrongly called “schools”.
When women find a statistically 80% of men "below average" that shows you right there that women today have totally unrealistic expectations.
1960’s Women’s Liberation...Ban the Bra!, Virginia Slims cigarettes, you’ve come a long way baby! Birth Control and Free Love, opportunity and equality.
Break the traditional mold, progress and freedom have yielded what we now see.
Women claimed they “wanted it all” meaning, a husband, children, career, flat belly after birth (intense sport) and total equality which morphed into an angry Feminism. This new Feminism with a grudge combined with the modern descriptions of manhood as “Toxic Masculinity” have alienated men and “empowered” women, so much so, that they are now alone and miserable while the “boys” do not want to commit.
This pendulum that swung too far to the Left will eventually swing back to the Right and reach equilibrium though it may take decades. By that time the idea of child-rearing may be a thing of the past.
“ Too late; no refunds. These men aren’t coming back. They didn’t walk away to teach society a lesson, they walked away because they learned theirs.”
Yep.
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