Who said that men should ‘step up’ to marry single moms? I never said that, and neither did the woman in the video.
She only said she must have ‘high standards’ because she’s the mother of a child.
By ‘high standards,’ I think she means someone who is trustworthy, someone who understands that she’s a mother.
Maybe he has a kid, too.
The woman in the video (which I have only now viewed - but I've seen countless others on the same topic) did, in fact, say very little except that she has raised her standards.
(Women like this generally are wisely very closed-mouth and try to reveal as little about the situation as possible. They want to provide a minimum of damning details.)
Most damning was the woman's statement, at 5:00, that it "doesn't matter, one way or the other, if she was at fault for the failure of her past relationships."
That one statement speaks volumes about her total lack of accountability! Her total lack of willingness to learn from her mistakes! Her utter childishness!
The woman in the video is, of course, at liberty to raise her "standards" sky-high, if she wants! She can flatly state that she will accept no one but a Nobel Prize winner, for all I care! (But by doing that, she is damning herself and her child to a life of loneliness!)
As for my having slightly widened the scope of the discussion to include the trite societal expectation that "good men" should "step up" and wife these single mothers: That is a legitimate adjacent topic. To insist that I do otherwise is ridiculous; it is tantamount to demanding that we discuss only one aspect of a major societal problem while ignoring all other aspects.
By announcing to the world that she has "raised her standards," she is implicitly expecting that the world satisfy her demands.
After having viewed the linked clip, I am surprised that this is the hill you have chosen to "die on."
You should choose your battles more judiciously. This tatted-up single mother boasting about her lack of accountability is certainly not the "poster child" for the "brave struggle" of repentant single mothers.
I defy any and all FReepers to view the Youtube clip in full, together with the commentary of Mr. Daniels, and not come to the same conclusion!
Regards,
P.S. Despite Mr. Daniels having said that he would put the link to the original, full-length video in the "description," I was unable to find the original video - can anyone help here?