As I said, the topic is not really single motherhood but the hypergamic culture that has taken hold of women around the world.
It’s a well-known phenom that these women will screw around in their 20’s. However, when they reach their 30’s they will try to redeem themselves by wearing clothing suited to the Amish to try and make it appear that they are something that they weren’t a few years prior.
Yes, there are single mothers who are good women but were dealt with a bad hand. Their husbands died or they weren’t able to discern that their high quality, in physicality and income, were really low quality in their character and weak in their ability to commit. |
Hypergamy is not about those type of women. Hypergamy is about using men. In their 20’s, they allow themselves to be used by high value men and are damaged in the process. The beta males, during this period, are absolutely dumped on by these women. They will savage him if he gets the gumption to just say hi. She will get him fired from his job if he tries to talk to her socially. He is a worm to her, in her mind, during this period. I do not exaggerate in the least about this for these men.
Once the women gets out of her ho phase, because her options have dwindled to where he is now competitive, she will then try and convince him to be a husband because she now needs a provider and she couldn’t land the big whale that she really wanted.
If he agrees to marry her, she will always compare him to the guy that she slept with one time. She will tell him that she could have had this guy, because he was willing to sleep with her once.
These men are mostly celibate outside relationships. If they went to the bar alone, they will go home at 2am alone. So they don’t go out. They tend to their life. If they do marry, quite often they are celibate within the marriage. The woman in question cannot bring herself to sleep with her husband on a regular basis, because she is forever in love with the big whale that she landed once. So the man in question, who was involuntary celibate in his twenties, is now involuntarily celibate in his thirties. Except he now has the responsibilities of marriage and being nice to her without a comparable reciprocity from her.
The woman who rejects him in their 20’s is stil rejecting him in their 30’s, except she is using him for financial support to provide for her children that are not his. He gets to be stuck in the marraige because divorce means losing most of his assets and child support.
Do you understand now what the issue is?
It’s a well-known phenom that these women will screw around in their 20’s. However, when they reach their 30’s they will try to redeem themselves by wearing clothing suited to the Amish to try and make it appear that they are something that they weren’t a few years prior.
And when you take her to dinner, she just orders a salad.
Many good points.
The manosphere taught me that young women divide men into two categories:
—Hot
—Creeps
Men need to decide which one they want to be.
Lol.
You wrote that ‘hypergamy’ is not about the women who were dealt a bad hand; rather, it’s about women who slept around in their 20s and then try to redeem themselves in their 30s. But, why are people assuming the woman in the video is that kind of woman? Maybe she’s one of the women who were dealt a bad hand.
Many people don’t want to marry someone who has children, and that’s fine. The woman in the video said she understands that.
Everyone is different. I was married for many years and then divorced, and I didn’t want to date again or remarry.
All my sons are 20-something, so I don’t need to visit the ‘manosphere’ to know what’s going on. I understand some of your complaints. Times have changed since I was young. We had to put up with a lot of creepiness, even when we were young girls. Then, sometime in the 90s, everything flipped 180 degrees. Now, a man might worry that a woman will think he’s creepy if he asks her out. So, everything went too far the other way. I think it’s sad.
With that said, sometimes a man misreads a smile and a hello from a woman. Then, he becomes angry or upset when she turns him down.
Some men complain about rejection, but they are complaining that the most attractive women rejected them. Beautiful women are only a tiny percentage of the population. I knew some women in that tiny percentage. Men asked them out all the time, so they had to turn many men down. I remember one in particular who was very kind. Now and then, a man would sweep her off her feet, only to break her heart later. How many men should she say ‘yes’ to?
I also knew several women who yearned to be wives and mothers. They were attractive, and they held out for marriage. But, they never married because even the ‘nice guys’ were more interested in the ‘hot’ women who put out. You described a ‘beta male’ who goes to a bar and then returns home alone. If he wants a nice woman, why would he pick up a woman at a bar?
I noticed couples with a strong faith marry very young - yes, even today – and they all seem very happy together. I also knew many couples with a strong faith who married later in their 30s and 40s. They had children, and those couples are still happy together. I am not trying to proselytize here. It’s just an honest observation.