Posted on 12/23/2024 3:25:16 PM PST by Morgana
With five kids as well, I am nipping at your heels with 11 grandkids!
Parents out there, raise several children if you can with the expectation of and behaviors towards them of expecting them to marry and have children as a matter of course.
The Mormons are weird but they have kids. Their culture encourages that.
It is sad. I had one girl child. My brother never married/no kids and the other one had two girls. My dad’s brother had a girl, then a few years ago found out he has a grown son from a one month stand but he doesn’t bare the name. So it’s end of the line for our name too. On my husband’s side there are half brothers that carry the name but I really wish we’d had a son too :/
Our daughters are both happily married and successful in their careers. Neither one wants children - they are not opposed to children in general, they just don’t want to go through the process of birthing them. Older daughter has always said she might adopt, but hasn’t happened either. We have to be content with grandcats.
I regularly see my grandson, as he goes to middle school a few miles from my house. I rarely see my granddaughters, as their parents (forgive my brutal honesty) are both extreme narcissists and are going through a divorce. I must have done a horrible job of raising him, he has this nasty habit of blaming everyone but himself for his problems.
My youngest granddaughter was born 13 weeks premature, but she's a fighter. She requires constant nursing care, and my daughter in law forbids us from entering her house. The oldest girl is a hoot, to put it mildly. She loves spending time with us, we have a great time when she's here.
So where am I going with this? Not looking for sympathy, just the opportunity to vent. 2024 ranks as one of the worst years of my life. At 70, I now have to work to keep up with my bills. I'm no longer my usual cheerful self, my bitterness seeps through on occasion, this whole situation is a $hit show, with very little encouragement from my wife.
Christmas spirit? You've got to be kidding me. My grandson will be here on Christmas to open presents, so that will help.
My apologies for this rant. My heart goes out to all of you.
The culture of social media etc seems stronger than the culture of family, children, church that so many generations have lived. It’s hard to understand how quickly things changed
Another treeless Christmas. I've been too sick recovering from cancer this year to be concerned with decorations. My middle son is living in my home, but opted to run off to Red Lodge, MT to spend a week with his abusive girlfriend. My wife and I are plotting a simple Christmas dinner. Cheese and onion enchiladas. Perhaps a quiche. We have some good gruyer cheese and a nice pre-made flakey crust. Leftover Indian food from this evening includes vegetable biryani rice and chicken korma.
....”now simply keep quiet as their children remain unmarried into their thirties, often citing climate change, racism, and school shootings as their reasons to be childless. One 69-year-old mom said her daughter has “made it perfectly clear … that this subject is not to be discussed.”
Daughter....women..... alimony.✖️....child ✖️support.... solipsism...✖️
Strike three , your 🖤
“Eventually I wound up teaching high school and by my count, we had 2,400 kids over the years. They just went home after school.”
Goodbye Mr. Chips
As we leave the world of religion, belief in God which are the wellsprings of human morality, we cling to the nothingness of everything is relative which leaves us clutching nothing but material existence and self-centered narcissism.
Popular culture pushes an agenda of self-fulfillment and personal growth and healthy eating so we can live forever.
The Boomer generation (of which I am part of) is responsible for carrying out all of the social messages of the 1960’s and 1970’s - namely, “If it feels good, do it” and “Power to the People”. These concept, taken to their logical conclusion have destroyed our moral compass.
If it feels good, (no matter what, do it) including flash mob theft, stealing, destroying property and even murder. Power to the people has become the power of the almighty cellular phone where more and more people are getting increasingly warped and inaccurate information about reality.
These expressions have led millions down the path of assuming that they (we) have a “choice” in every aspect of our lives including not getting married, not having kids and eventually, not having grandkids.
The Millennials are not to blame. They have grown up in a valueless society geared to mass consumer consumption and now, more than ever, getting stoned.
Only Conservatives, still clinging to basic religious concepts and living their lives according to the ultimate Law of God still hold out hope.
This does not mean one must be religious but it does mean that there is a higher authority above the simple human being who always thinks they are right and justified in their behavior.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident...”
Merry Christmas to all and Happy Hannukah.
My wife and I have three kids and 8 grandkids. We are expecting news soon that a great grandchild will be on the way. We are a little tired after making several holiday and birthday dinners in the past few months. We are just now thawing another roast for Christmas. I almost prefer smoking a big turkey for our get togethers because it is so much cheaper but quite a bit more time consuming.
They can wear us out, but we feel very blessed. I feel bad when I get into a confrontation with someone who is obviously very bitter during the holiday season. I usually assume that they have driven off those who tried to love them, but circumstances out of their control often leave people alone in their later years. These people need our prayers, understanding, and forgiveness.
The left’s obsession with abortion and preventing people from having families is truly sad and sick.
The mental health thing I really understand.
In a much sadder case, a friend of mine’s sister could have been a model or actress but in her 20s seemed to fall apart mentally. She was a very pretty girl.
The last I heard she was in bad health and lived in an apartment full of newspapers and magazines. Major hoarding.
**There are some men and women who don’t have children in order to avoid affecting them with the same disorders they faced growing up, and possibly developed their own.**
My cuz had type 1 diabetes and had only one child. That’s one more than me. Since diabetes is 50% preventable we can move on with a healthy life style. As for the mentally ill me thinks one child raised by others could improve generationally. I have faith in the human condition moving forward.
How many abortion women regret their decision? The world is just too scary for them to take on motherhood. That’s on all of us.
I wish I’d had more children. Two by birth and one by adoption- but I think if I could go back I would have had three more by birth. I think, though, that might have kept us from adopting, and this child needed parents, so there’s that. So far we have seven grandchildren will probably have two step grandchildren before next year is over.
A scary world leads to abortion? If the world was that scary, women would keep their pants on and select better partners. Terminating pregnancies are shown to be lack of planning, vanity, personal convenience, being self-centered, and covering up cheating.
As for the world being "just too scary for them to take on motherhood... that's on all of us." Absolutely not. Dismissing the personal responsibility of individuals and blaming the collective is what got us in this position.
Not really. Lots of people lived that dream. It was something everyone aspired to,
The schools exert a downward pull on morals that some students manage to withstand and others don’t. But no institution has the prerogative to do that.
Dear Mr. Night Hides Not,
this thread indeed is very depressing and I am so very sorry for all the trials and tribulations you had to go through, and all the others on this thread. 😞😢 💔
I just have no words to express my sympathy, but I‘d like to say that I‘m over here, praying for all of you. If only I could give you a hug 😭
Sometimes I feel that this world really is a Vale of Tears, or maybe that God has withdrawn His hand from us and it‘s now Baphomet who is in charge of this planet. To me, it‘s the generally terrible situation of this world, and my beloved Homeland in particular, that frets me most.
I have no family either, as I am handicapped, as well as being an asexual. It took me nearly five decades to realize the latter.
Children of my own would have been my greatest personal wish in this life, but it never was to be. I am a 56 year old virgin, if I were not Protestant, I undoubtedly would have become a monk.
May God bless you, FRiend.
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