"Called to Peace" ministries...anyone familiar with them? Coming to our Church to speak

Women in Potentially Destructive and Harmful Relationships Do you constantly find yourself “walking on eggshells” in order to avoid upsetting your partner? Does your partner constantly criticize you? Are you confused about what a healthy relationship looks like?

STATEMENT OF FAITH Called to Peace Ministries is an evangelical, nondenominational parachurch ministry. We hold to the basic tenants of the faith as passed down by the church fathers and set forth in the Apostles’ Creed. We believe that God’s Word is the standard by which Christians are to live their lives.

At CTPM we believe that there should be unity when it comes to the essentials of the faith and liberty in the non-essentials. We allow for freedom of conscience when it comes to matters of theology that are not as clear or central to the Bible’s teaching. Our staff, board and volunteers are made up of people from various denominations who choose to respect one other in spite of doctrinal differences. When working with clients, we choose to maintain the same stance. We do not impose our theology on anyone related matters such as divorce and remarriage, headship/submission and other issues that are widely debated among Evangelicals. We will work within your doctrinal framework and respect your stance as long as it does not endanger victims of abuse.

My concern is this is going to be another “Christian men are bad” type of conference. The bottom line is it’s a sin problem, a breakdown of society problem. Also, they state “1/3 of women are abused”...what type of abuse? Is hurting someone’s feelings “abuse”? What is the standard of abuse?

Also, if they’re concerned about abuse why aren’t they mentioned that men in relationships are physically abused almost as much (25%), also men make up 78% of suicide and 74% of homelessness.

I have 2 opinions, my wifes and the wrong one.

because men arent supposed to hit them you Can never really argue with you wife like you would your best friend.

you cant really cuss at her, throw things, throw her. etc. but a woman can use anything she wants.

thank God he made most of them much smaller than men. a 5'2" woman hitting a 6' man is almost a joke if its a body shot.

otoh. I have no shame hitting any woman who smacks me in my face,because smacking someone in the face makes you feel you are an equal to me, you are no longer a woman but someone who wants to go toe to toe with me.

Verbal abuse can be very destructive and have a long, long time effect on the abused. My ex was verbally abusive. Not by yelling at me but by treating me like I never did things like he would do them and having to show me how things were done. From doing yard work to cleaning house, he had to show me a “better way”. If I got upset and told him that I knew how to do something, he would give me the “silent” treatment for a couple days. He either wouldn’t talk or gave one word answers. Of course, after a couple days, I would apologize and things would get back to normal. After years of this, I finally decided I had enough. Abuse coms in different forms and “hurting someone’s feelings” constantly can be abuse.

Three times my ex-wife hit me, all three times at my face, and all three times were years apart (so one hit, we got past it, then years later another hit, etc.). And all three times were arguing about her mother, with her fussing about her mother's control over her relations with her family, and me telling my ex to love all of her family and tell her mother to get over it. (In other words, I was taking my ex's side and she still hit me.)

In some ways I agree with both you and your wife. All 3 times were a bit of a joke because she didn't have a weapon. There was an unspoken understanding that I could beat her up easily. There was another unspoken understanding that if either of us called the police I'd be the one in trouble unless possibly if I had bruises or such. But with the first hit at the moment I didn't think of any of those. I was too shocked. The second time I was tempted to hit her back, but I'm a Christian first. The third time she didn't hit paydirt because I blocked her strike -- and it hurt her more than me. She teared up and had the realization that she couldn't hurt me without hurting herself a lot more unless she had a weapon, and probably wasn't going to go that far. After the third time I was thiissss close to divorcing her; I'd known anyway that she'd been cheating on me and had already been tempted to divorce her. The reason I didn't was because, as a man, I knew the court would give me no chance of custody of my kids and the kids living in her house with just her would be brainwashed to hate me just like her mother worked on her to hate her own family. I'm an idiot. I should have trusted the Lord.

A few years later she divorced me anyway, and a few years after that I won custody anyway. I owe the Lord big time. Big time! The Lord is bigger than judicial bias. The Lord is bigger than spousal abuse. The Lord is bigger than anything else. If I had trusted the Lord as soon as she started cheating on me I would have divorced her and started the custody battle years earlier and, assuming I'd still win custody, spared my kids of years of mental abuse from their mother.

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