Verbal abuse can be very destructive and have a long, long time effect on the abused. My ex was verbally abusive. Not by yelling at me but by treating me like I never did things like he would do them and having to show me how things were done. From doing yard work to cleaning house, he had to show me a “better way”. If I got upset and told him that I knew how to do something, he would give me the “silent” treatment for a couple days. He either wouldn’t talk or gave one word answers. Of course, after a couple days, I would apologize and things would get back to normal. After years of this, I finally decided I had enough. Abuse coms in different forms and “hurting someone’s feelings” constantly can be abuse.
Reminds me of what I tell my wife, “You can tell me what to do, or you can tell me how to do it, but you don’t get to do both.”