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I have 2 opinions, my wifes and the wrong one.

because men arent supposed to hit them you Can never really argue with you wife like you would your best friend.

you cant really cuss at her, throw things, throw her. etc. but a woman can use anything she wants.

thank God he made most of them much smaller than men. a 5'2" woman hitting a 6' man is almost a joke if its a body shot.

otoh. I have no shame hitting any woman who smacks me in my face,because smacking someone in the face makes you feel you are an equal to me, you are no longer a woman but someone who wants to go toe to toe with me.

Three times my ex-wife hit me, all three times at my face, and all three times were years apart (so one hit, we got past it, then years later another hit, etc.). And all three times were arguing about her mother, with her fussing about her mother's control over her relations with her family, and me telling my ex to love all of her family and tell her mother to get over it. (In other words, I was taking my ex's side and she still hit me.)

In some ways I agree with both you and your wife. All 3 times were a bit of a joke because she didn't have a weapon. There was an unspoken understanding that I could beat her up easily. There was another unspoken understanding that if either of us called the police I'd be the one in trouble unless possibly if I had bruises or such. But with the first hit at the moment I didn't think of any of those. I was too shocked. The second time I was tempted to hit her back, but I'm a Christian first. The third time she didn't hit paydirt because I blocked her strike -- and it hurt her more than me. She teared up and had the realization that she couldn't hurt me without hurting herself a lot more unless she had a weapon, and probably wasn't going to go that far. After the third time I was thiissss close to divorcing her; I'd known anyway that she'd been cheating on me and had already been tempted to divorce her. The reason I didn't was because, as a man, I knew the court would give me no chance of custody of my kids and the kids living in her house with just her would be brainwashed to hate me just like her mother worked on her to hate her own family. I'm an idiot. I should have trusted the Lord.

A few years later she divorced me anyway, and a few years after that I won custody anyway. I owe the Lord big time. Big time! The Lord is bigger than judicial bias. The Lord is bigger than spousal abuse. The Lord is bigger than anything else. If I had trusted the Lord as soon as she started cheating on me I would have divorced her and started the custody battle years earlier and, assuming I'd still win custody, spared my kids of years of mental abuse from their mother.