You made the right choice.
good choice...
further away ?
You invested in someone far more valuable than $55 per hour.
But your girl asking "why?" is obviously very powerful stuff.
My heart would melt.
My children are grown, but my wife and I made the decision early on we would NOT sacrifice our family and children's future for any corporation. The lure of money and status is very short-term, but your family is there forever.
Also, where God closes a door, he opens a window. Living properly will always lead you to a greater opportunity than that which you gave up
Correct choice - family comes first. Consider also that, assuming you are a White Christian, the possibility exists that since you are working deep in muslim territory you may not make it back home.
You wouldn’t want to run for President of the United States would you? Wish we had a president who believed in putting his “American family” first.
$55/hour is not slouch pay.
You say “dream job”. Was it partially for the adventure of working in a foreign country?
Could you take your family with you?
Twenty years ago, I turned down a $100K+ position because it required me to travel 48 weeks out of the year. The bonus potential was very favorable and I already knew I could amass another $70K on top of my salary.
I thought my husband would be thrilled being a stay-at-home dad.
His response when I told him about the offer? “No. You sleep next to me at night. If you are in another city, I can’t protect you.”
End of discussion.
I took a part-time position making a fraction of that and put my husband and children first.
I used to think that providing a comfortable life and opportunities was my primary role as a mother.
Now that my health is failing and I’m slowly coming to the end, I realize that the people who will miss me the most when I’m gone are not co-workers, bosses, or clients...it’s my family. They come first.
I took 3 kids, 3 dogs, and a husband to Dubai for 2 years. We all loved it. $55 per hour better come with paid accommodation, paid utilities, and a car, for Abu Dhabi.
If not, you made the right choice.
I'll second that. My son received a very lucrative job offer in a state two states away from ours - he went and checked out the area, looked at apartments - then it hit him that he'd be leaving everything he knows behind (he's unmarried but has a girlfriend). After that realization, all he wanted to do was leave and come back home to his family and friends - he never looked back.
Job would have paid him ≈ $60K more than he earns right now.
You would have been a fool to go there anyway.
I struggle to find meaning in this post. Are we just supposed to admire your selflessness?
I wish my father would have been like you. We moved my senior year of high school. We only moved 100 miles away in the same state, it was a lateral move within the same company, and he could have done the job where we lived. To this day, I don’t know why, but I do know it affected me, and not positively.
Good! Another dream job, making up pun-ney names for craft beers, may be just around the corner like it was for this lucky dad: https://babylonbee.com/news/dad-lands-dream-job-at-brewery-coming-up-with-puns-for-naming-beers
Please give us more information. What exactly is this dream job, and how do the pay and benefits of the dream job compared to whatever it is you do for a living right now?
Are you divorced or never married, and is that why you only talk about a daughter, and no mention of a wife or the mother of the daughter? Do you have an estranged relationship with the mother of your daughter?
I know a guy that moved his family to Viet Nam for a high paying banking job. It was supposeed to be for two years. After the two years they held his retiremnt and other investments and wouldn’t let him go. His family moved back to the US and he was not able to leave Viet Nam or let his family back to visit. After five years total, they let him leave with his retirement, etc.
My dad worked overseas for two years at a stretch.
It was not a good move. Very detrimental.
If you have no choice you can overcome. But willingly? No.