Two videos: "I want to be a wife" followed by "This TikTokker Finally Realized Why Men Don’t Find Her Attractive"

TikTok and YouTube | 2023 | Matt Walsh responding to pbtfitness

[grundle]

pbtfitness: "I want to be a wife"

https://www.tiktok.com/@pbtfitness/video/7291404004582591790

Response by Matt Walsh: "This TikTokker Finally Realized Why Men Don’t Find Her Attractive"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJBy7FjNZxw

[DeplorablePaul]

Could be her crazy eyes.

[Bob434]

It was her voice and the way she said it in a whiny fashion. If I were to have a woman sound like that while on a date, it would be the last date with her for me.

Maybe she doesn’t usually talk like that, but she seemed pretty practiced at it to my ear. Hope for her sake that I’m wrong though

[Bob434]

Agreed. So many beautiful women ruin their looks with all 3 of those. Why? I suspect it is because they are attention seekers- the “oh look at me... please” types, wh8ch is a huge turn off. To me at least. Same with skimpy revealing clothing- nope- not for me.

[Bob434]

A lot do,have them, to their detriment in my opinion. I just don’t want to be around attention seekers that constantly need reinforcements in the manner of glances and compl8ments in order for them to feel wanted. Too many women today are so insecure that they must attract attention, even negative attention, to feel wanted. It’s ugly.

[Bob434]

[[Tattoo parlors provide an invaluable public service.

They mark the idiots so the rest of us will know them on sight and save us having to invest the time to find out]]

Very true- it’s like a big neon sign that says “unbalanced and an emotional wreck” (not everyone who gets tats is like that, but far too many are, hence the warning signs)

[Reily]

I had a friend who was Polynesian. His tatts were there for cultural reasons. He had one that stood for family, one for clan and one for tribe. Those I understood. When he got his graduate degree in EE I jokingly asked if he was going to get the diploma tattooed on himself. He laughed and said if I did that, I can’t hang it on the wall.

[SheepWhisperer]

“Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout
is a beautiful woman without discretion”

Proverbs 11:22

[Reily]

I really really want to attach a 9V battery to her nose ring!

[Gay State Conservative]

Yes,I understand that certain Polynesian cultures have had tattoos for many years...centuries,in fact. When I speak of tats I'm not talking about them...I'm talking about Westerners.

And for that matter I've read that Japanese culture has a pretty strong opposition to tattoos...in Japan they're seen as an indication of criminal activity.

[Reily]

Yep! Both the Yakuza and the Russian mob have a tradition of tats. Interestingly the Russian mob actually goes back a couple of hundred years a whole generational subculture that neither Czar nor Communism could wipe out. Tats for the Russian mob are a sort of resume that you wear. I don’t know if that’s true with the Yakuza.

[Vaduz]

LOL great point now if we can just teach the younger ones how to ID them for what they are not what they think they are.

[rlmorel]

I do not, as a rule, watch TikTok content, but since I saw the subject, and it involved Matt Walsh, I took a look.

First the girl with a nose ring, tattoos and biceps.

I have to preface this that, as a member of the "untattooed tribe", I think the female body, unadorned as God gave it to her, is the pinnacle of beauty. So I readily admit that I don't find messages or images inked on the body any kind of positive addition. Does that make me superficial to people who disagree with me? I expect it does, but I can't do anything about that.

In this case, she is not a physically unattractive woman. But she has an intellectual component that many men would find unattractive, if not openly repellent. It is that concept that she is a self-confessed "spaz". We may laugh at Lucille Ball when she plays the "spaz", but we don't want to be married to one. We just think the role is humorous.

• Men don't want girls with nose rings. A nose ring (or worse-those posts that stick out) are not even remotely attractive. As a matter of fact, most men find them highly unattractive. That said, men are visual creatures, and if the woman is good looking enough, feminine enough, or has enough good personality traits, I can see where men would attempt to overlook the nose ring.
  
  
• Men generally don't find girls with tattoos on visible parts of their bodies attractive, especially ones on their faces, necks, hands, legs, and other exposed parts of the body. As conceded above, men being largely visual, some men may make exceptions.
  
  
• Men don't lust after "strong" women in the sense that this woman appeared to classify herself as "strong" by holding up a big bicep. Men are interested in mentally strong women who can stand up for themselves and speak for themselves while engaging real rationality when doing so. Sure, I know a few guys who are attracted to muscular, Amazon-like women, but they are a minority. Personally, when I see a six-pack on a woman's abdomen, it is viewed as an instant negative for me, even if I accept that as an indicator that she is concerned with the fitness of her body, which is an instant positive. It is the visual and sensual appearance. Being a guy, I don't have any inclination to experience intimacy with someone who has an overall body habitus similar to a male.

Being a man, and in a life of discussion with other men regarding what they find attractive in women, it is my conclusion that men want women who are mentally stable, have strong moral convictions and intelligence, but are physically feminine.

Bottom line, this woman has made choices in her life, the nose ring and visible tattoos, that mainly bear on her apparent distress at realizing she has self-limited her pool of potential mates. If she gets rid of that nose ring, that will bring her a wider audience of men who find her attractive. All she has to do is remove it, no cost in money or time, and it is disturbing that she seems totally unaware of this.

Tattoos are different, but I would start by removing them from her hands, just as a start. Even if it is imperfect or leaves scars, many men would find, in the balance, that a woman who recognizes she made mistakes in her youth and attempted unsuccessfully to remediate them physically, is preferable to someone who continues to fail to understand that underlying dynamic of visible tattoos.

And if she can tame the "crazy person" persona (which many men find repellent) and instead adopt an open and honest recognition that she made choices in life that have negatively impacted her and is trying to do something to remediate those choices, she will find there are many men who will listen.

Sure, men are visual creatures who can be shallow when it comes to appearance and the opposite sex, but we aren't always stupid about it, and we can recognize that initial impressions based on appearance are often useful only as a triage tool when evaluating potential mates.

Now, I must go watch Matt Walsh's response...:)

[Varsity Flight]

📌

[rlmorel]

Matt Walsh’s views kind of agreed with mine in many ways, which is fine, because I respect Matt Walsh.

I had to laugh when he said something like “No man anywhere was repulsed by a woman eating sushi with her bare hands as she drinks sweet tea!”

It does put her in context in that she has been sold a bill of goods by people who don’t have any interest in her outcome in life. Those people impressed on her that this is what men want, a muscular, tattooed, pierced woman who looks and thinks like them.

Most men I know who are grateful for having had the luck in life to find the woman they married, nearly without exception stress that their wives bring things to their lives as men they don’t get from themselves or from other men, and as a result, made them better men and brought stability to their lives.

I also agreed a bit with Matt Walsh on his degree of sympathy towards her. I felt some of that too. Well, she is lucky. It isn’t too late for her.

[Varsity Flight]

📌

[Sirius Lee]

There’s someone out there for everyone. Not someone that’s any good, but someone.

[rlmorel]

I had trouble with that too, but after watching it a few times, she was trying to draw a contrast with what Feminists told her men want, and what she discovered men really want.

It took me a couple of times watching it, but pretty sure that was it.

She is puzzled that guys are attracted to physically feminine (not muscular like guys are naturally muscular due to Testosterone) un-tattooed, un-pierced women, and this is a world view she never questioned before, apparently.

[OldHarbor]

un-tattooed

Good luck !

[rlmorel]

Well. Probably good for me, being now an old, married man, that I am not in “the market”.

I don’t know how young men do it now. (I have only been able to guess at how women navigate these waters my entire life, but now I find myself wondering at how men do it)

It seems just too weird now. Too complicated. And it felt complicated when I was a young man.

[coalminersson]

I like a wife with a nose ring. I can attach my leach to it. Don't tell my espouse I posted this.