Found this interesting as applies to dating also in today’s culture.
For the betrayed person, as the article mentions, the perception of determining what is “real” and assured certainty is paramount.
But, often, when there is an affair, it's because the marriage is dysfunctional in a variety of ways.
An ignored, lonely, isolated, or emotionally abused wife or husband is easy prey for temptation...and there's temptation around every corner.
I caught my wife cheating last week, it was devastating. We were playing Monopoly and I saw her secretly steal Park ave!!!
Do hookers count?
As Jesus defines adultery (lusting in your heart and/or mind for someone not your spouse), everyone has had an affair.
when i was younger that would have been a deal breaker.
now i’m old....if i found out he had cheated in the past i would let it go.
My 1st wife cheated. My second wife paid the price. My ability to trust her not to cheat took about 10 years time. It is very difficult to trust after being cheated.
“I don’t know how some women can forgive the betrayal”
“they just chose to forget that the relationship was destroyed. For money, for convenience”
About 6 months ago a girlfriend of my wife’s did just that.
She went out of state for a wedding and her husband had an affair.....to make matters even worse it was with his ex-wife.
My wife, expecting her girlfriend to file for divorce ultimately decided she would stay in the marriage for the primary reason of his financial security.
Apparently they are more like roommates now as she tells my wife she could never be intimate with him again after what he did.
Also of note is they have both been married multiple times.
In researching that, i found that every time a person gets remarried after a divorce the chance of that marriage ending in divorce increases.
When a person is remarried for the third time the chance it will end in divorce is somewhere in the 70% range.
One thing I have observed about that couple is Jesus is not central in their lives.
I can’t help but think if HE was, they more than likely wouldn’t be in the situation they are in.
That happened to me, when I cheated and a few others that I know who cheated.
Yes both F & M!!
In the animal world, male species are rarely monogamous and do “look beyond the nest”. The female is built to protect the nest at all cost, if she abandons it, there is something terribly wrong.
It would mean that the relationship I thought I had did not really exist, if he could do such a thing to me ... that he wasn't head over heels about me the way I am over him.
At that point my don't give a damn would take over and I'd want nothing more to do with him. Even if he fully and truly had remorse that doubt would always be there.
Of course, other people's mileage may vary. If they have had a one off cheat and they managed to patch it back together I am happy for them.
I couldn't do it.
A fella in our town that worked with my father at the time, came home for lunch one day, went to th3. Barn to feed the animals like he always did, and was beaten to a pulp by 2 men armed with 2x4’s. Both his arms were broken, but he regained his senses and ran for the house only to find the doors were all locked and despite yelling out to his wife, the doors remained locked.
The 2 perps got scared when he started yelling and ran off.
It came to light in the trial that his wife was hav8ng an affair with one of the perps, and had convinced him to murder her husband.
Long story short- she did her time in prison, got out, and the fella, being a ch4istian man who took marriage seriously, took her back, and lived with her for a few years u til she up and took off- probably with another person.
Recovery from cheating get rid of them they did once they will do it again keep it simple .
Curious??? In today’s internet age, does intimate txting between a spouse and another on line considered betrayal?
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
There would seem to be a red flag of contempt going on as a precursor to this, to about to happen.
Having children probably contributes to trying to rehab the marriage
New studies show women cheat now more than men
Can’t say I’m shocked