Posted on 12/20/2023 1:19:46 AM PST by Varsity Flight
My 1st wife cheated. My second wife paid the price. My ability to trust her not to cheat took about 10 years time. It is very difficult to trust after being cheated.
i was always faithful too and had plenty of chances.
Being a cheater is not in my mindset- and plus, why would i risk what i had? No way.
My youngest daughter was only married 2 years and her husband cheated with a friend of theirs- “the snaggle-toothed whore” is what i call her, lol.
They are not married anymore, and the whore is long gone too. He’s moved on to have a kid with one girl, and got married again to another girl, this time that marriage did not last a year.
He’s got issues I’d say.
Is the reverse *always* appropriate? Is it foolish for a guy to ever even *consider* forgiving his wife?
“I don’t know how some women can forgive the betrayal”
“they just chose to forget that the relationship was destroyed. For money, for convenience”
About 6 months ago a girlfriend of my wife’s did just that.
She went out of state for a wedding and her husband had an affair.....to make matters even worse it was with his ex-wife.
My wife, expecting her girlfriend to file for divorce ultimately decided she would stay in the marriage for the primary reason of his financial security.
Apparently they are more like roommates now as she tells my wife she could never be intimate with him again after what he did.
Also of note is they have both been married multiple times.
In researching that, i found that every time a person gets remarried after a divorce the chance of that marriage ending in divorce increases.
When a person is remarried for the third time the chance it will end in divorce is somewhere in the 70% range.
One thing I have observed about that couple is Jesus is not central in their lives.
I can’t help but think if HE was, they more than likely wouldn’t be in the situation they are in.
I was always accused of cheating. I finally acknowledged that if some 18 year old is waving it in my face I’m gonna sniff it.
no mention of bill and Hillary.
Christ *was* crucified between two thieves. One was allowed into the Kingdom of Heaven,the other one (presumably) was not.
You’re the strong one. It’s the weak ones who stay.
That happened to me, when I cheated and a few others that I know who cheated.
Yes both F & M!!
In the animal world, male species are rarely monogamous and do “look beyond the nest”. The female is built to protect the nest at all cost, if she abandons it, there is something terribly wrong.
Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
One word: MONEY
THAT is the best revenge: doing well and being happy.
Same-
My 1st, what I thought was steady girlfriend cheated.
It was over in a heartbeat, once I found out. Boy, did that hurt.
Could never understand how one could ever live with not knowing if your spouse was late for whatever reason, or if they were meeting up somewhere w someone, after that kind of betrayal?
Trust is EVERYTHING!
Forgiving that kind of betrayal is bigger than me!
It would mean that the relationship I thought I had did not really exist, if he could do such a thing to me ... that he wasn't head over heels about me the way I am over him.
At that point my don't give a damn would take over and I'd want nothing more to do with him. Even if he fully and truly had remorse that doubt would always be there.
Of course, other people's mileage may vary. If they have had a one off cheat and they managed to patch it back together I am happy for them.
I couldn't do it.
How easily you can replace your spouse is also part of it. Some people, if they marry, will be a once in a lifetime for them. If they divorce, they will not marry again by no choice of their own.
Those people often get abused by their spouse, because they cant go anywhere.
Women who have had more than fifteen partners, statistically, cannot bond with a man. Sex becomes a transactional for duty done or gifts or whatever.
A fella in our town that worked with my father at the time, came home for lunch one day, went to th3. Barn to feed the animals like he always did, and was beaten to a pulp by 2 men armed with 2x4’s. Both his arms were broken, but he regained his senses and ran for the house only to find the doors were all locked and despite yelling out to his wife, the doors remained locked.
The 2 perps got scared when he started yelling and ran off.
It came to light in the trial that his wife was hav8ng an affair with one of the perps, and had convinced him to murder her husband.
Long story short- she did her time in prison, got out, and the fella, being a ch4istian man who took marriage seriously, took her back, and lived with her for a few years u til she up and took off- probably with another person.
The Higher Beatitudes: Humility and Compassion.
During the Hoover administration?
(Heh-heh!)
Regards,
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